What's an acceptable age gap for a man and woman?

[Peter Bang]

Hee,

me dated woman 14years my senior and syt 14 yrs my junior.

[natsuki]

Hmm... I dated (yes, dated ok..) men who are 15 yrs my senior... and boys who are 3 years my junior... I think... erm... I think it's for individuals to decide on the 'acceptable' age gap... Look, dated and sex, they are not the same...

[kiko]

I feel that age doesn't matter, the most important factor is both of them deep inside their heart really love each other very much!

[Juicer]

Age does not matter when it comes to dating but it does influence alot on whether the relationship can be further developed into lifelong partnership !

[atomsgame]

Wish I had that much luck when I reach 50...50->20. Recently drop my date of gf 14 years my junior .... not much fun... as she look up to me more for cash to buy things (coach handbags, LV sunglasses, dresses, shoes, watches, make up, skin care, makan), lots of restrictions on action and excuses on priority with her kid and hubby..... and noted her sms with her friend on squeeze slowly with comments on old and ugly.. decided enough and drop out... trust that many have similar experience, pls share how u deal with it

[ING ING]

It's all in the mind. If you think it's matter, it will. Just like the China Nobel professor in his 70s(or 80s), still he married his wife that was in late 20s.

[_AXL_]

it comes with maturity, i feel.

i used to think that i would never click with anyone more than 5 years my junior due to generation gap. then i met my wife who is 9 years my junior but incredibly matured and composed. however, i wouldnt say that of her friends which some r even older than her. the things they talk about... shallow.

thus, with the TS's example of the nobel laureate, it could be that the guy is terribly immature and the gal is a blood-sucking gold-digger... is she PRC???

[AirAsia]

Originally Posted by natsuki

Hmm... I dated (yes, dated ok..) men who are 15 yrs my senior... and boys who are 3 years my junior... I think... erm... I think it's for individuals to decide on the 'acceptable' age gap... Look, dated and sex, they are not the same...

Tell us more about the diff can...

[natsuki]

Originally Posted by AirAsia

Tell us more about the diff can...

Erm.. Diff about?

Anyway, i prefer more mature guys... Those at least 5 years and above de... At least most mature guys can think...

My date who was 15 years my senior is a very thoughtful gentleman... No need to worry about anything when we go out together.... Very sweet person... Taught me things about life, and i love listening to people.. So i enjoy talking and listening to him.... =)

One of my date who was 2 years my junior, is such a pain... Very boring person, trying to sweet talk girls to sian them, anyway he is one of gf's fren... And the impression he give girls is not really that good... Imagine, my girl fren went movie with him, and my girl fren was the one paying for the tix. And imagine, this little boy ring me up at 2am in the morning on a saturday night sound bored and sleepy.... yet, telling me that he is bored wanna meet me and ask me to go the far west end of SG where he stayed, to look for him... When i asked him saying : "come on, if u wanna see me, u shld be the one coming down to find me", and he tell me he has no money to come find me... His mum dun let his out... Weather not good... blah blah~ Omg.... Den he ever rang me up and tell me i got seductive voice... Oh my 天!

Another boy, 3 years my junior, was my ex bf... Imagine when i was 20 and he was 17, we went out for shopping, dinner, buying those cheap GL ciggies.... even overnight in hotel also i pay... I din't blame him, but after that i found out he was 2 timing, that feeling seriously zucks... And wad's the worst part, he bluff me about he need to return money to his fren then took the money that i lend him, and go out spend with his another gf... The worst part, right after we broke off one afternoon. he went back to the girl's side and that small girl sms me biatch. blah blah~ Well, scold wadeva she wan, i'm still me... and come on, its her bf come tackle me first lo... Haiz, after that i totally dun wanna contact him or have interactions with him, his frens, his infors.... He just make me feel so.... Used? But anyway, we never do anything although we did over night in hotels before... And, looking back at the pics we took together before,i realize... maybe i just wan the feeling of fighting for someone, maybe...i dun really like him... How much does a 20 year old girl knows about love/like? I'm glad that it's only a short period of time that i have wasted, on him. My life is so much more better without him, now.

When i was in Secondary school, i had an ex who was 15 then. And i was 17. He was from another school and i think i know him from IRC, well... It's common last time to know people online... Anyway, he's quite okie... Tall and nerd looking... There was once, i was at his place, and we had sex (hmm... he's really not bad in bed.. =P ) , after that i went home, he actually smsed me and ask me some strange question... He asked whether i could do it with his younger bro.. Imagine he's only 15... How young would his 'younger' bro be... Wahh, that moment when he sms me that, i felt so funny... Why would he ask me that sia.... Soon after, we broke off... However, he's the first boy in my life that gave me present ( a Jay Chou 'Fantasy' album, wic i still remember till now...), and the first person i ever made a full bottle of stars for... wahhh... now u were thinking... natsuki is old school right? haha~

Anyway, i still have more examples communication errors btwn me and some younger boys... But i think i have given more then enough examples already... Time to sleep le... Nitez and nice day~

[warbird]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

Not sure if this is the right place to raise this issue even though it does concern an aspect of the matters of heart.

As for me,
When I was 20yo, I dated 20yo;
When I was 30yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 40yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 50yo, I dated girls in their 20s; and now
I am 55yo, I am still dating girls in their 20s! And I am not talking about ktv or bar girls.

Hi tiongkoklan,

We r more or less in the same boat. My preference is for even younger SYTs, those aged 18-21.

Even for formal marriages, any age difference is acceptable if both parties enter into such union willingly, w/o coercion. Matrimony in which there is a big age gap has produced some outstanding offsprings. I'll give one local example.

Mr. Loke Yew was a Malaysian business tycoon who lost his wife when he was 68. He quickly married a 19-yr-old gal from a good family. Unfortunately, he passed on less than 2 yrs later, leaving a distraught young wife who was pregnant w/ his unborn male child BTW, He had over a dozen children from previous marriages.

His youngest son turned out to be the most successful among all his kids. He was Dato Loke Wan Tho, an Oxford-educated business tycoon, who was probably the richest man in all of SE Asia. The age gap of his parents? About 50 yrs.

Good day!

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by warbird

Mr. Loke Yew was a Malaysian business tycoon who lost his wife when he was 68. He quickly married a 19-yr-old gal from a good family. Unfortunately, he passed on less than 2 yrs later, leaving a distraught young wife who was pregnant w/ his unborn male child BTW, He had over a dozen children from previous marriages.

His youngest son turned out to be the most successful among all his kids. He was Dato Loke Wan Tho, an Oxford-educated business tycoon, who was probably the richest man in all of SE Asia. The age gap of his parents? About 50 yrs.

This is very common among the older generation. They believe that marrying a young bride makes you younger and healthier. I've met a 70 plus uncle with a 30 year old china wife recently. That 70 plus uncle looks good. I almost thought he's still in his 50s. Heard there is a malaysian sultan who married a young bride too. It's not so controversial for them as they can have 4 wives. Even Siti Nuhaliza's husband is much older than she is right? And she's supposedly like the Britney Spears of Malaysia.

There isn't an age range that is acceptable or not. A lot depends on how confident a man the guy is.

[warbird]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

This is very common among the older generation. They believe that marrying a young bride makes you younger and healthier.

There isn't an age range that is acceptable or not. A lot depends on how confident a man the guy is.

Having regular n frequent sex is extremely beneficial to health, more so for older men. It prevents prostate cancer, promotes a sense of well-being n happiness, increases the production endorphins n related hormones, reduces stress n blood pressure...

A truly monogamous rs is best becos it removes one major downside of frequent sex, which is the risks of STDs.

Hi bro Xgenre, u hv hit the nail on the head when u wrote, "...how confident...the guy is."

IMHO, the most powerful factor in attracting desirable women is a strong n positive "body language" which exudes confidence, power, charisma, courage, etc. This trait attracts them at the subconscious level. They will fall for the men becos they can't help it. It's like a powerful attractant or gong tao, hehe.

[nehnehpok]

Wah Bro, you are fefinitely my IDOL la. How do you do that at your age man? I am 34 goin out wif 19-23 yo gals but ur the Champ la!!!
Give me some tips le.

[cunt_search]

Originally Posted by tiongkoklan

... As for me,
When I was 20yo, I dated 20yo;
When I was 30yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 40yo, I dated girls in their 20s;
When I was 50yo, I dated girls in their 20s; and now
I am 55yo, I am still dating girls in their 20s! And I am not talking about ktv or bar girls.

And I do get more stares in places like Singapore, and my girlfriends have been mistaken as my “daughters” by the ignorant staff of hotels, airline check-in counters, etc – but it never bother me.

i tin universal mentality
there is no age gap, only income gap
your income >>>>>>> her income ok

[haoyunqiqi]

Depend is older or younger. If older, not more than 3 and younger not more than 6.