Ode to the Nice Guys

[JAXXX]

Originally Posted by jeronimo

It reminds me of a t-shirt I saw
Good girls go to heaven,
Bad girls go everywhere!

There is also a Chinese saying - Girls don't dig good guys and go for the bad boys

Personally i feel that girls only look for the nice guys after they finish their tour of duty with a few bad boys.

Being a nice guy is like being in the reserve team.

[waypastprime]

Haizzz... No wonder I'm left on the shelf... Need more than one blower to get rid the cobwebs on me...

[tittyhawk]

Originally Posted by tanner132

You dunno that night I planted a detector with you hor... hiak hiak hiak

Sian MM? where where??

[mtkpnmpk]

A toast to all nice guys.
Hope all brothers have better luck and opportunities this 2005.
Cheers.

It really doesn't pay to be nice. I spent many years of my life being "the nice guy" all that happens is I get made used off. All my friends gf think I'm really nice and wonder why I have no one of my own. Simple answer is no car and no good job. Though I do have wealthy parents and live a comfortable life, I never let that show. I don't want a girl to like me because of money.

Here's the shocker! Good things don't always happen to good people. Just because we don't a good deed, doesn't mean we will get something in return even though we deserve it.

I just feel so tired of seeing the scumbags of life around me enjoying life without their morales and responsibilities. I must say they seem much happier than me.

Just last year I gave up. I starting visiting FLs and HC. I try not to have anymore females friends that treat me as an older brother. I still care about them, but it's getting tired when they tell me I'm like their brother. But I am still not happy. I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either. Just waiting for this life to end. I was once nice, now no more...

[watmidoin]

Originally Posted by Klown

Just last year I gave up. I starting visiting FLs and HC. I try not to have anymore females friends that treat me as an older brother. I still care about them, but it's getting tired when they tell me I'm like their brother. But I am still not happy. I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either. Just waiting for this life to end. I was once nice, now no more...

Yo, u sound like a sad Klown don't be so sad lar. i'm sure u r not the only one wake up and live a new ful-filliing life. watch one of those charity shows and you'll see people in more pathetic state than u. they have nothing to live for but they keep going. take strength in knowing you have alot already.

[medicheng]

nice guy always lose out in getting a good girl one... used to it liao....

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by Klown

It really doesn't pay to be nice. I spent many years of my life being "the nice guy" all that happens is I get made used off.

Just last year I gave up. I starting visiting FLs and HC. I try not to have anymore females friends that treat me as an older brother. I still care about them, but it's getting tired when they tell me I'm like their brother. But I am still not happy. I don't want to die, but I don't want to live either. Just waiting for this life to end. I was once nice, now no more...

Aiyo take it easy lah bro klown.

... I do agree to a certain extent that nice guys finish last and the chinese saying "guys not bad, woman not love"

But know that everything in life balances out, what comes round goes around. WLs are not the place to look for love (believe me I noe) and it seems you have many good "sisters"so just pluck up courage and go for them lah. just rem... U only LIVE once but how do u want to LIVE it ?

[Flinger2]

I have always being a nice guy. But what I get in return is the following:

1) Cheated

2) They will cry that the guy is bad to them and pour and expect emotional comfort from you. But they will go and bonk the other guy after they pour it all out.

3) They want my advice, comfort and everything else you expect in a relationship but just not physical stuff. Thats reserved for the other guy who is using them.

4) You are always their friend, brother etc..etc..and nothing more. Basically they use you when they need you .

My last ex taught me a womderful lesson. I was super cautious with her. But she broke me down to actually fall in love with her emotionally and express my feelings and feel for her . She said she couldn;t trust anyone like the way she trusts me and she felt so safe with me like never before and all that Jazzy Jazz. Once I opened up and actually stated calling her and satisfying her in every way, she started to change. Also, whenever she called me, its often that I was a bootiecall her for ger. Although she disguised it so very well. Then she got bored of me, and she behind my back started to get to know another guy. I never knew all this. Here I was trying to make sure the relationship works out , and that she doesn;t get hurt becoz she was really hurt in her previously relationship etc.. she was in return paying me back by cheating on me.

After this woman, I decided I am not gonna trust another woman, no matter what they say or do, becoz, when you emotional give yourself to the person, man, these woman just trash you. You need to have control over yourself, if they start treating you different, talk to them, if they start acting up. Just tell them and leave. No more giving face to them. If you're a bitch, treat you like a bitch.

Also, I never cheated, played a fool, or did anything when a girl was drunk. I actually took care of them. But now, I don't give a damn anymore. If I think you're a bitch, I would treat you like the bitch you need to treated on.

How do you know if a girl is a bitch or not. Easy. Talk to them as a nice guy, you'll find it out. They actually tell you what they did etc.

Woman are never to be trusted with emotionally. Its not their fault. They are emotionally driven. Logic doesn't work for them. So no use being nice to them.

Just my opinion.

Flinger2

[Lau Chek]

[QUOTE=Optimus_Prime]Aiyo take it easy lah bro klown.

... I do agree to a certain extent that nice guys finish last and the chinese saying "guys not bad, woman not love"
QUOTE]

i raise my hand to agree to that.
happens to me once, few years back when I was 23. and she's 19. very chio gal who I met her in Sparks and she just broke off with her bf that time.
we went dating for couple of time and finally one day ended up in her house that night. A semi-D , father loaded. She said if one day when she get married, her parent will sponsor her everything cos she's the only daughter..
of course I act highclass by saying it's nothing but feeling lucky lor.
She told me that night about her bf and how she moans during sex with him, and that her body esp. her back is not as smooth ( got the hint?) .
Guess what I do next?
I actually told her that since she just had a broke off, she should'nt be jumping into another relationship so fast (which is not what I want actually), and until today I still don't believe I said that. shit.
That night, I sent her home, worst she found a ktv namecard of the tuberose mamasan-ling ling in my car. she kept quiet.
The next day, her pager & hp was off. think she had took my advise to reconsider her relationship.
should I did something that night, will it be different ? today I might not be working so jalat liao.
Opportunities don't come always, once it happens to knock your door, make sure your grab it tight. same applies to work.
cheers

[lawry]

[QUOTE=Lau Chek]

Originally Posted by Optimus_Prime

i raise my hand to agree to that.
happens to me once,

hahahhaha.. brudder, one tiger beer on me... u damn STOOPID!!!

[japboy]

Originally Posted by Lau Chek

I actually told her that since she just had a broke off, she should'nt be jumping into another relationship so fast (which is not what I want actually), and until today I still don't believe I said that. shit.
That night, I sent her home, worst she found a ktv namecard of the tuberose mamasan-ling ling in my car. she kept quiet.
The next day, her pager & hp was off. think she had took my advise to reconsider her relationship.
should I did something that night, will it be different ? today I might not be working so jalat liao.
Opportunities don't come always, once it happens to knock your door, make sure your grab it tight. same applies to work.
cheers

brudder, i think d impt part of this is dat she found dat namecard, not wat u've said... well, i think it's nice of u 2 say dat 2 her but dun after saying n den found such a namecard in ur car lah... dat's a definite no-no...

i think nice guys have their perks as well... u can be nice.. but not brudder's nice as in poor Klown... nice as in bf's nice... there's different level of being nice.... for mi, i am nice n used 2 getting all those dat r looking 4 long-term r/s, which i dun want... jz wanna b nice on a temp level... know wat i mean?

[Noobie]

Originally Posted by Flinger2

After this woman, I decided I am not gonna trust another woman, no matter what they say or do, becoz, when you emotional give yourself to the person, man, these woman just trash you. You need to have control over yourself, if they start treating you different, talk to them, if they start acting up. Just tell them and leave. No more giving face to them. If you're a bitch, treat you like a bitch.

Also, I never cheated, played a fool, or did anything when a girl was drunk. I actually took care of them. But now, I don't give a damn anymore. If I think you're a bitch, I would treat you like the bitch you need to treated on.

How do you know if a girl is a bitch or not. Easy. Talk to them as a nice guy, you'll find it out. They actually tell you what they did etc.

Woman are never to be trusted with emotionally. Its not their fault. They are emotionally driven. Logic doesn't work for them. So no use being nice to them.

Just my opinion.

Flinger2

totally agree with you, i was a victim of a similar case like you.
only thing was that the girl i was interested wasn't interested in me at all in the first place.

said she not ready for a relationship, recovering from a previous breakup
ended up she found another guy within a few months and told me to f off,
saying she had absolutely no interest in me....f**king bitch.

[cbjuiceyumseng]

Down with Bitches !

Originally Posted by watmidoin

watch one of those charity shows and you'll see people in more pathetic state than u. they have nothing to live for but they keep going. take strength in knowing you have alot already.

I will not comapre myself to pathetic people. Of course I know I am fortunate already. I know there are many more people worse off than me. I just wanted to state that things don't always balance out. Shit might just carry on forever. I shouldn't just sit on my ass and sulk. But thinking positive is just lying to myself.

Anyway, Thats Life, there are just as many Bastard guys as there are Bitches. Many of them here cheating on their wives. Like I said, I'm a nice guy no more...