Sexless Relationship

[coolguy71]

hi Sundial.. High five man..

I try to talk to my wife.. but sure to end up shouting match.. even my kids say soo too..

Sometime i just give my words some thoughts..she will say i am not answering to her.. and if real answer no need to think..
IF i can something fast.. she will say i alway hurt ppl feeling no brain and thought..

Hehe.. this is the life i need to go about..

So i go to work early(7am).. return (10pm).. to avoid confrontation.. as result i got promoted to Manager in 3 years time.. hehe.. must thanks to my wife.. as my boss think i am hardworking..

[jasonzzz]

Originally Posted by sundial

hates going out with my wife coz she end up black face for no reason. Pissed my day off.

singapore gals should have compulsory NS for women. teach him how to be a good wife.

Sound so familiar

[haozboiboi]

Originally Posted by coolguy71

Haha.. I love your quote from Bible.. which clause like John 4:10 ,etc?..

You have just bring the new meaning to 'Thank God'..haha..

The other part about we guys need to make it enjoyable for our love one.. Haha.. that is the easy part.. i can say so for me and TS..

I willing to do anything to make it enjoyable for her.. i always with to paint her.. but she dont like it.. too intimate.. wtf..making sex is intimate right?..

cheers..

Bro, I purposely go retrieve my login info to reply to this.
Hope the below helps:

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Ephesians 5:2.21-33

"Follow Christ by loving as he loved you, giving himself up in our place. Give way to one another in obedience to Christ.

Wives should regard their husbands as they regard The Lord, since as Christ is head of the church and saves the whole body, so is a husband the head of his wife; And as the Church submits to Christ, so should wives to their husbands, In everything.

Husband should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her to make her holy.

He made her clean by washing her in water with a form of words, So that when he took her to himself she would be glorious, With no speck or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and faultless."

There are a couple of paragraphs more, but think the above-mentioned is what you are looking for.

I don't want to preach, but just FYI, prayers help too.
(I prayed out aloud every night and confided my problems (some of them on your topic of little sex) to The Lord and everything somehow gets better.)

Oh btw, I sincerely believe in God and am not making any misrepresentation or 'mind-fuck' to my wife when praying. I also don't know how to explain. Actually the idea is very simple, but I can't put in words..

Let me try (based on personal experience):
Prayers strengthen my faith & bond with God.
I trust & believe in Him, and He helps me.
His ways not always what I expected, but always for the better.

[coolguy71]

maybe we should have a poll ... the percentage of singapore married guys with wife who dont like sex...hehe..

[sundial]

Originally Posted by coolguy71

maybe we should have a poll ... the percentage of singapore married guys with wife who dont like sex...hehe..

Its a joy luck club for frustrated sg men

[pleasurehobby]

Man are not just looking for sex, but sex is a very important part of the relationship. Unless for some reasons unable to meet, e.g overseas etc. It is natural for lovers to be intimate when being around.

IMHO, for sex to be enjoyable, it has to be build on the foundation of love. Only with real love both parties can enjoy the sex. Sex is not the final goal of a relationship, IMO it is the by product of the growth and nuturing of a very intense love. When both love each other enough, sex just happens. Try giving more love

[lotsfits80]

I'm in more than 5 years relationship and have never penetrated her. The most we did is me finger-painting her to orgasm and her giving me HJ or BJ. Only happens once a month or two months. Cannot CIM, COF or COB. Only laying on my back and cumming on my own tummy...

We both agreed to have real sex only when married but seriously I doubt it. I think I'm going to have a sexless marriage also but if I dump her because of this, I'll be the shittiest guy am i right? So I stay and hope for the best.

[Botakhead]

Originally Posted by lotsfits80

I'm in more than 5 years relationship and have never penetrated her. The most we did is me finger-painting her to orgasm and her giving me HJ or BJ. Only happens once a month or two months. Cannot CIM, COF or COB. Only laying on my back and cumming on my own tummy...

We both agreed to have real sex only when married but seriously I doubt it. I think I'm going to have a sexless marriage also but if I dump her because of this, I'll be the shittiest guy am i right? So I stay and hope for the best.

I sympathise with you, nowadays younger generations are so liberated and knowledgeable to say no sex is ok when being married. It's just too sad case. Why get married at all in the first place, or rather you already can predict the situation even before marriage, why don't you just let go and be the shittiest guy in the world and have sum fun with another partner who is willing to have sex voluntarily with you, have a better future.

[wanabe_2006]

I think no sex relationship before marriage can only be worse after marriage. After marriage, they have sex only for babies, if no plan for babies then sex stops. No matter how you rationalise ... they think its normal not having sex after marriage.

My take is ... even if you already have sexual relationship (ie. bonked her), if not compatible sexually ... then don't try so hard and continue. Will suffer later.

Now you think "too late" cos already invested so much feelings in the relationship, later married .. you think "too late" already married, may as well try. Later have children, you think "Shit! previously not too later when gf or even when wife ... but now really too late!".

Moral of story, if only courting ... even if have sex before ... if don't feel right or compatible ... then breakup and move on. Of course, don't be an arsehole to breakup just becos she does wanna have sex. Speaking from experience.

[lotsfits80]

Originally Posted by Botakhead

I sympathise with you, nowadays younger generations are so liberated and knowledgeable to say no sex is ok when being married. It's just too sad case. Why get married at all in the first place, or rather you already can predict the situation even before marriage, why don't you just let go and be the shittiest guy in the world and have sum fun with another partner who is willing to have sex voluntarily with you, have a better future.

Actually when she's willing, she's great. Her look and body is totally at least an 8. When I hug her naked and kissing her neck and everywhere, the way she moans I can tell she's really enjoying it with passion. When she sucks me she also makes sound and she even learned to use tongue on my didi head. That's why she's giving me a mixed thought. I'm confused. She told me that she can't fully enjoy sex due to our current rented house in a low cost flat but we are moving in to our own terrace house soon. Hopefully I can enjoy her fully then...

[wildthingmk]

Originally Posted by lotsfits80

Actually when she's willing, she's great. Her look and body is totally at least an 8. When I hug her naked and kissing her neck and everywhere, the way she moans I can tell she's really enjoying it with passion. When she sucks me she also makes sound and she even learned to use tongue on my didi head. That's why she's giving me a mixed thought. I'm confused. She told me that she can't fully enjoy sex due to our current rented house in a low cost flat but we are moving in to our own terrace house soon. Hopefully I can enjoy her fully then...

hope for the best for you!!!!! in my honest opinion, given if i was your girl, if i can suck with so much passion, im only waiting for the right moment.. definitely not adverse to sex.

[picco]

Originally Posted by lotsfits80

I'm in more than 5 years relationship and have never penetrated her. The most we did is me finger-painting her to orgasm and her giving me HJ or BJ. Only happens once a month or two months. Cannot CIM, COF or COB. Only laying on my back and cumming on my own tummy...

We both agreed to have real sex only when married but seriously I doubt it. I think I'm going to have a sexless marriage also but if I dump her because of this, I'll be the shittiest guy am i right? So I stay and hope for the best.

That's the worst part to agree only when married.
My gf don't like sex too. And she do it as obligation. So i really sat down and communicate.

I told her sex is an extension to love, called love making. If this is absent, then the love is not complete. I even asked her to speak to her friends whether its possible.
All her friends told her with their boyfriends its minimum 3 times a week.
So my gf strike a deal with me. 3 months 1 time. I said no. 2 mths 1 time. No
1 mth 1 time. No.
She ask me is it want everyday. I also said no.
Because i told her that when it becomes a duty, then no point having it. If i tell her all these and she cannot understand, then lets call it off. Does she want me to stay at home and have dinner or go eat outside. If i can good home cooked food, why venture out? ( of course the last sentence is crap to everyone, but hey i am trying to talk some sense to her.)


I was mentally prepared for break up. But she understood what i meant. Now, she starts to open up and request for it. Sometimes 1 week i don't even want once. But she will fulfil it.

So my advice to those who are in this path. If you can't have it, have a heart to heart talk. Can't even have a heart to heart talk at this stage, after marriage even worst. If gf cannot understand, then break up. Simple. If she is not giving u now, u can forget about it after marriage. Life is miserable now and it will be worst after marriage.

[picco]

Originally Posted by wanabe_2006

Moral of story, if only courting ... even if have sex before ... if don't feel right or compatible ... then breakup and move on. Of course, don't be an arsehole to breakup just becos she does wanna have sex. Speaking from experience.

I am speaking from live experience.
Bro, i think you are not talking sense. If girlfriend dont want have sex and don't break up, you want to marry her?

I don't know about you, but if gf is not cooperative before marriage and refuse to talk about it, then i would be an arsehole not to breakup.

It just mean both parties don't match. Why not break up with her and let her find another man who doesn't love sex and both of them can live happily ever after while i can find another girl who matches the same taste as me?

Unless ur girlfriend after discussing can understand. Actually they understand, just that they act blur. So they can continue to act blur after discussion, but i will soon find my own way out of it.

[picco]

Originally Posted by lotsfits80

I'm in more than 5 years relationship and have never penetrated her. The most we did is me finger-painting her to orgasm and her giving me HJ or BJ. Only happens once a month or two months. Cannot CIM, COF or COB. Only laying on my back and cumming on my own tummy...

We both agreed to have real sex only when married but seriously I doubt it. I think I'm going to have a sexless marriage also but if I dump her because of this, I'll be the shittiest guy am i right? So I stay and hope for the best.

No penetration n u tahan 5 yrs, seriously i think you are shitty n stupid. That is why your gf eat u up.

I tell you, you go n talk to her that the relationship is heading nowhere without sex. There is no lovemaking.
You think your gf will go and tell her friends n family you leave her because she don't want give you sex? this will make her even more no face.

This is what I tell my gf. Go and tell her family n friends that 2 mths have sex 1 time only. I am not beggar.
If this u also don't dare say, then i really think you are shitty and you get what you will deserve for not even trying.

[DasQuick]

Originally Posted by haozboiboi

Bro, I purposely go retrieve my login info to reply to this.
Hope the below helps:

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Ephesians 5:2.21-33

"Follow Christ by loving as he loved you, giving himself up in our place. Give way to one another in obedience to Christ.

Wives should regard their husbands as they regard The Lord, since as Christ is head of the church and saves the whole body, so is a husband the head of his wife; And as the Church submits to Christ, so should wives to their husbands, In everything.

Husband should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her to make her holy.

He made her clean by washing her in water with a form of words, So that when he took her to himself she would be glorious, With no speck or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and faultless."

There are a couple of paragraphs more, but think the above-mentioned is what you are looking for.

I don't want to preach, but just FYI, prayers help too.
(I prayed out aloud every night and confided my problems (some of them on your topic of little sex) to The Lord and everything somehow gets better.)

Oh btw, I sincerely believe in God and am not making any misrepresentation or 'mind-fuck' to my wife when praying. I also don't know how to explain. Actually the idea is very simple, but I can't put in words..

Let me try (based on personal experience):
Prayers strengthen my faith & bond with God.
I trust & believe in Him, and He helps me.
His ways not always what I expected, but always for the better.

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