Introduce husband to BDSM

tassles · #1 10-10-2012, 01:58 PM

Just want to share my situation:

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. All this while, we have a normal sex life. Sex is nice, but it could definitely be more exciting.

I've always had a secret fetish for BDSM. We've tried some light stuff like tying me up with silk scarves and blindfolding, but I want more!

I play out different fantasies in my mind, like hard spanking, forced orgasms, nipple clamps, butt plugs..... But I don't know how I can suggest this all to him. Will he be able to accept it? Will he enjoy it?

Similarly, if you heard all this from your girlfriend/wife, how would you react?

octman · #2 10-10-2012, 04:52 PM

Im sure yr hubby will like it..........just testing him by after taking off yr clothing...use that to cover his eye n if he do not reject and enjoy it. Then think u can proceed further. I love that when i was bindfolded n bbbj.Shoik!!!

Flyhighwiththai · #3 10-10-2012, 05:17 PM

Tassels,

After two years of marriage you hold be able to ask him frankly about whether he'd like to plsy a bit of BDSM, to satisfy your unfulfilled fantasies? Or do you feel he may just not be into it? The question also is, can he be top in the sense that he is able to derive pleasure from inflicting pleasurable pain on you?
Did you consider giving him some book about BDSM to read, like 50 Shades of Grey, just to tease him and see if he's interested?

Good luck.

sounding · #4 10-10-2012, 05:24 PM

Watch some BDSM porno with him then u can ask him indirect.

application9999 · #5 10-10-2012, 05:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tassles

Just want to share my situation:

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. All this while, we have a normal sex life. Sex is nice, but it could definitely be more exciting.

I've always had a secret fetish for BDSM. We've tried some light stuff like tying me up with silk scarves and blindfolding, but I want more!

I play out different fantasies in my mind, like hard spanking, forced orgasms, nipple clamps, butt plugs..... But I don't know how I can suggest this all to him. Will he be able to accept it? Will he enjoy it?

Similarly, if you heard all this from your girlfriend/wife, how would you react?

OK..if he don't like...PM me...

james3333 · #6 10-10-2012, 06:16 PM

wow i love it too, i have tried with my wife afew time. which i tied her up
using wax on her, she love it.
even i let here try 8" didulo, she enjoy & want more of it.

keep it up ypu will enjoy.

royelove · #7 10-10-2012, 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tassles

Just want to share my situation:

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. All this while, we have a normal sex life. Sex is nice, but it could definitely be more exciting.

I've always had a secret fetish for BDSM. We've tried some light stuff like tying me up with silk scarves and blindfolding, but I want more!

I play out different fantasies in my mind, like hard spanking, forced orgasms, nipple clamps, butt plugs..... But I don't know how I can suggest this all to him. Will he be able to accept it? Will he enjoy it?

Similarly, if you heard all this from your girlfriend/wife, how would you react?

If Ur hubby can't accept u can pm me n v can tgt find it out how v can do it n feel it.

porscheclub · #8 10-10-2012, 06:50 PM

Hi Tassles, I was talking dirty to my wife one day & she slowly opened up to me....yes, to my surprise, she wants hardcore sex, BDSM & sorts. My heart fluttered & goosebumps came on, it was so hot talking about it that I felt I was having fever. From then on, we've tried blind folding, tying, whip, toys, video...& we bought many fetish toys & swings too

I also intro her to kink.com & she loves it.

like the other person said, 2yrs & you should know him better cos some guys might freak out

MaMistress · #9 10-10-2012, 07:02 PM

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Originally Posted by porscheclub

Hi Tassles, I was talking dirty to my wife one day & she slowly opened up to me....yes, to my surprise, she wants hardcore sex, BDSM & sorts. My heart fluttered & gooebumps came on, it was so hot talking about it that I felt I was having fever. From then on, we've tried blind folding, tying, whip, toys, video...& we bought many fetish toys & swings too
D

You'll never know until you ask.

Many years ago with one of my ex-gf, we had a normal sex life. We used to watch porn together and she would always choose AngMo movie that had anal and DP scenes. I noticed and asked her why? Her answer surprised me. She has this secret fantasy to do anal and DP. Sex got even better after that.

kuasimi · #10 10-10-2012, 10:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tassles

Just want to share my situation:

My husband and I have been married for 2 years. All this while, we have a normal sex life. Sex is nice, but it could definitely be more exciting.

I've always had a secret fetish for BDSM. We've tried some light stuff like tying me up with silk scarves and blindfolding, but I want more!

I play out different fantasies in my mind, like hard spanking, forced orgasms, nipple clamps, butt plugs..... But I don't know how I can suggest this all to him. Will he be able to accept it? Will he enjoy it?

Similarly, if you heard all this from your girlfriend/wife, how would you react?

Hi tassles, just want to understand where, how and when you started liking BDSM from woman point of view so I can slowly orientate my wife. Thanks.

tassles · #11 10-10-2012, 11:17 PM

octman: I've blindfolded my husband before. He likes it that I can have my way with him.

Flyhighwiththai: I've read Fifty Shades (really enjoyed it!!!). I told him about it, but its highly unlikely he'll read it. Books put him to sleep. I think he's probably afraid of inflicting pain on me.

sounding: your suggestion might work, after all, men are visual creatures

porscheclub: wow! Glad that your wife is receptive and enjoys playing! Kink.com is a great resource. I like hogtied and sexandsubmission.

kuasimi: it all started with a kidnap scene which I saw on a porno with my ex. Did a search on the Internet and it somehow led me to bdsm site.

yang punk · #12 11-10-2012, 12:17 AM

How about one day you tell him, "rape me!" Then you can start to prompt him to tie you up, etc. Next dress up as a school girl and tell him you have been bad and to punish you....

Hopefully from then on he will use his imagination. If not just come in here and shout HELP!

callmebad · #13 11-10-2012, 12:51 AM

for me,it's okay because I have read about this and know what this is all about

as for you, you have to do some research on BDSM, explain and to show (the research) to your husband what this is all about and at the same time assure him, you just want to make sex life more fun and you just once in a while wants to be a naughty girl and want to act out some of your wildest fantasies, and this is not that you find him quite boring in bed

if he loves you, I'm sure he will try to accommodate your wishes in some ways

most important,your relationship with your husband must be good, because BDSM involves a lot of trust, as one side has to be totally at the mercy of another one

PeaceWithin · #14 11-10-2012, 02:31 AM

Do it... just go it gently to ease him into the idea...

Today... scarf blindfold.
Tomorrow... bedpost tie-up
Next month... a whole new world of possibilities!

Have fun.

Flyhighwiththai · #15 11-10-2012, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by tassles

I've read Fifty Shades (really enjoyed it!!!). I told him about it, but its highly unlikely he'll read it. Books put him to sleep. I think he's probably afraid of inflicting pain on.

I just saw on the net that there is a xxx movie adaptation of 50 shades of grey. Not sure if it is possible to download yet, only seems to be available on DVD and BlueRay in the US and Europe.