STD Recovery / Acceptance Experience..

[nickwch]

Brudders..

Think we have enuff threads about the different type of STDs.
I'm thinking of starting this thread to let ppl share their experience in their recovery / acceptance experience. Putting acceptance becos cases like me..kana herpes..can't be cure at the moment..can only contain..so...my recovery process is how to accept the fact and move on..

U can state what medication u were given...how u handle the physical/emotion issues etc. Also..if u got gd doctor / GP to recommend..can also share share. Cos personally..I dun like DSC...

[AfA_hmor]

Originally Posted by nickwch

Brudders..

Think we have enuff threads about the different type of STDs.
I'm thinking of starting this thread to let ppl share their experience in their recovery / acceptance experience. Putting acceptance becos cases like me..kana herpes..can't be cure at the moment..can only contain..so...my recovery process is how to accept the fact and move on..

U can state what medication u were given...how u handle the physical/emotion issues etc. Also..if u got gd doctor / GP to recommend..can also share share. Cos personally..I dun like DSC...

Dear Nickwch,

Very wonderful thread! I hope this thread will grow into something good...

Well done!

[genesis]

i 2nd that

[KoLianTai]

Got once i urine got pain, go see gp i deny of any sexual contact... the doctor gave me a look and i guess he know got lahz. Then he gave me some antibiotics...

Then 2nd time i go back, take urine test, tested protein in urine lorr. Then same thing, deny and got some antibiotics. Then doc say is urine infection, so i smsed all the gers i fucked recently to tell them go check. Heng really urine infection nia, coz i raw chiongster lol.

[JackieChan]

my thoughts are with you.

btw, did anyone got infected becos of BBBJ alone ? wonder if it is really tt dangerous...

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by JackieChan

my thoughts are with you.

btw, did anyone got infected becos of BBBJ alone ? wonder if it is really tt dangerous...

http://www.medinstitute.org/media/Ed...%20Dangers.htm

Some people say it isn't sex. Well then how come it's causing the rampant spread of genital herpes among America's young people?

Oral sex is very popular among teens as young as thirteen. Young girls and boys participating in this kind of activity is said to be a common sight at parties of middle schoolers. The saddest part is that they donít believe they are having sex. Many really think they are protected from the emotional and physical consequences of early sexual activity because, after all, it's just oral sex.

But a study out of the University of Wisconsin has shown the impact of the oral sex rage. There are two basic types of herpes : one kind transmitted orally and the second transmitted through genital contact. In other words, orally transmitted herpes generally stays transmitted mouth to mouth and genitally transmitted herpes generally stays transmitted genital to genital.+ Studies conducted over the past 20 years have shown that only about 25 percent of the orally transmitted herpes shows up in the genitals. Now, at least according to the research out of the University Wisconsin, the ratios have reversed. Of students at that university who were newly infected with genital herpes in 2001, 78 percent had the type usually associated with oral transmission, but in the genital area.

Simply put, these data show that young people are suffering the consequences of their false sense of security of this form of "not" sex. Oral sex has become a predominant mode of transmission and spread of the most troubling form of herpes and genital herpes. While less than 10 percent of individuals who have genital herpes even know they have the virus, fully 85 percent of these individuals can still spread the virus.

In addition to causing painful symptoms in some infected individuals, herpes can also increase the risk of contracting HIV, the virus that causes AIDS.

It's time we started warning our kids about oral sex. No parent can stomach picturing his or her sweet, 15-year-old daughter giving oral sex to some high school boy. But it's happening, and these oral sex parties include the "good kids". There's lots of peer pressure to do it because, after all, itís supposedly not sex and it's supposedly just a safe, pleasurable activity. And if you do it, girls get convinced, that boy will really like you. Parents who can't imagine their son or daughter involved, just might be shocked.

And we need to warn them about more than just herpes and other diseases which are scary enough. The emotional consequences of oral sex can be just as traumatizing to a teenager as intercourse -- especially to girls. There are the same feelings of being used, of low self-esteem, of degradation.

Oral sex : it's sex, for sure. The disease rates are proving it. And the teenagers feeling emotionally used, they are proving it as well.

Joe S. McIlhaney, Jr., M.D., is president and founder of The Medical Institute for Sexual Health. A non-profit medical organization based in Austin, Tex., The Medical Institute was founded in 1992 to confront the worldwide epidemics of nonmarital pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection with incisive health care data.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by JackieChan

my thoughts are with you.

btw, did anyone got infected becos of BBBJ alone ? wonder if it is really tt dangerous...

http://www.swedish.org/17075.cfm

Though he never used the words oral sex,? Patricia M. knew thats exactly what her 15-year-old son meant. Prompted by a suggestive scene on television, her son turned to his parents with an earnest expression. You can catch all kinds of diseases that way,? Patricia recalls him saying.

As she and her husband listened to the facts their child shared, gleaned from his hours of school-based sex education classes, they learned an important lesson. The fact that he is open about it helps with my concerns,? says Patricia, who has another son, age 11. We set no boundaries when it comes to talking about sex.?

Despite the open communications in her own home, shes concerned about stories she hears on the news and from other parents that indicate a growing acceptance of oral sex among curious teens who want to avoid pregnancy. Its a topic Im going to have to pay as much attention to as intercourse,? she says. Theres a lot to worry about.?

Perception Versus Reality

Teens experience with oral sex remains difficult to track. While data clearly shows that U.S. teen pregnancy rates have declined and that fewer teens report being sexually active, little research exists about the prevalence of oral sex among adolescents. Still, small-scale studies that have included the subject point out its significance.

For example, in a 2001 survey by the Campaign For Our Children, more than half of teens believed that oral sex did not affect virginity.

A report by The Henry J. Kaiser Family Foundation published this spring added more focus to the topic. Among its findings:
36% of 15- to 17-year-olds said theyd engaged in oral sex.
13% of teens who had oral sex had never had intercourse.
75% of sexually active teens reported also having oral sex.
39% believed oral sex was safer sex.?
Nearly half considered oral sex less of a big deal? than intercourse.
19% did not know that the act could spread sexually transmitted infections, (also referred to as sexually transmitted diseases, or STDs).


Though they may not have long-term research to confirm it, some experts believe that more adolescents are experimenting with oral sex, and at younger ages. It may be an unintended consequence of the heightened awareness of the risks of vaginal sex,? says Sarah Brown, director of the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy in Washington, DC.

But oral sex comes with its own set of dangers. Both viral and bacterial sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can be transmitted through oral sex, including:
Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
Herpes simplex virus
Hepatitis B
Gonorrhea
Syphilis
Chlamydia


Oral sex is occurring, it does have risks, and its important to talk about them early on,? Brown contends.

Forget ˜The Talk

Still, talking about sex in general, and oral sex in particular, makes many parents nervous. Creating an environment in which all family members feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and asking questions takes more than a one-time effort”it also takes time.

This is an 18-year conversation,? Brown says of sex education. Parents need to start talking early and often.?

She urges parents to build open, honest relationships with their children so that talking about sex can grow out of natural curiosity and trust. You dont have to be an expert,? she says. Young people want a safe place to talk about these things.?

Parents can also help children make healthy life decisions by encouraging them to be successful in school and get involved in productive activities outside of the classroom. As they develop their own sets of values and beliefs, children watch their parents carefully, Brown adds. Parents have to model respectful behavior in order for their words to have credibility.?

Tips for Parents

From using the ambiguities of popular culture as conversation-starters to sharing their own experiences, caring adults can find many effective ways to communicate with their children about all kinds of critical issues and decisions, including sex. Expert advice includes:
Be an askable parent. Tell your children its natural for them to have questions about sex.
Listen more than you talk. Encourage your children to share their concerns and experiences.
Look for teachable moments. Watch television shows with teens, see what they are reading in magazines”and that becomes a forum for communications,? says Jennifer Manlove, senior research associate for Child Trends, a non-profit research center in Washington, DC.
Answer questions simply and honestly. Present the facts, share your values, and direct teens to additional resources when necessary.
Coach kids well. Help your children learn how to get themselves out of risky situations. Reinforce their right to make their own decisions and resist peer pressure.
Stay involved. Teens need supervision”and guidance”as much as their younger siblings. Though they may not act like it, they really do crave, and listen to, their parents advice.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by nickwch

Brudders..U can state what medication u were given...how u handle the physical/emotion issues etc. Also..if u got gd doctor / GP to recommend..can also share share. Cos personally..I dun like DSC...

Well docs tends to look at the grave side of things perhaps they do not want to err in their judgement....many years back I urinated blood...believe me it was all blood...doc saw got a shock...send for xray....usual round of questioning...ok i own up i did it a few months back when i was in palembang....they started pointing to std as the cause...but there was no discomfort on my part....ie pain, physical signs etc....so they put me on dosage of antibiotics.....after a few days things started to clear up...so i thought yeah probably std...but later got such a excrutiating pain on my back to my left....started urinating blood again...went to hospital did a KBU scan...and guess what....it was kidney stone...apparently the stones were scrapping down the renal tube that why i urinated blood...but it was really scary thinking all the while that i had std....

[nickwch]

Hey...glad to c my thread expanding. Hope more brudders would come forward to share. Gd or Bad..its an experience where others can learn from.
When I know I hv Herpes..I was damn low in morale..have never felt so loss and scare in my life...

Luckily I found some gd overseas forums...where ppl sharing experience..encourgaing each other to move on..etc..I slowly but surely pick up my life again. Its only 4 mths since I have herpes..I'm still adapting..but at least I am much better than what I went through a few mths back.

Our health minister onli know how to blame ppl causing HIV+/aids to rise..never hear him +++ing how to help ppl with HIV+/aids..give up on him...so at least hoping this thread could help ppl with std..hmm....maybe cant help much for HIV+/aids..cause that is really the worst of the worst..untill a miracle cure can be found.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by nickwch

Our health minister onli know how to blame ppl causing HIV+/aids to rise..never hear him +++ing how to help ppl with HIV+/aids..give up on him...so at least hoping this thread could help ppl with std..hmm....maybe cant help much for HIV+/aids..cause that is really the worst of the worst..untill a miracle cure can be found.

I guess all the negative publicity on how the AIDS disease comes about has made it into the list of a "shameful" disease...but what is the difference between a AIDS sufferer and a terminally ill patient...both have a dateline with death...infact everyone of us has a dateline with death...the only difference, pple like us are left to wonder how and when we will die but for sufferers of AIDS or a cancer ridden patient, more or less, that answer is already there...a terminally ill person dying from any other disease other then AIDS can hold their head high and say "I fought the good fight but lost" but given the mentality towards AIDS sufferers, not many will come out openly to admit their suffering...

[Quill]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

I guess all the negative publicity on how the AIDS disease comes about has made it into the list of a "shameful" disease...but what is the difference between a AIDS sufferer and a terminally ill patient...both have a dateline with death...infact everyone of us has a dateline with death...the only difference, pple like us are left to wonder how and when we will die but for sufferers of AIDS or a cancer ridden patient, more or less, that answer is already there...a terminally ill person dying from any other disease other then AIDS can hold their head high and say "I fought the good fight but lost" but given the mentality towards AIDS sufferers, not many will come out openly to admit their suffering...

Unlike cancer, HIV/AIDS is easily preventable. And we all know the risk factors involved. It's quite difficult for anyone with HIV to hold their "head up high" when they know that they intentionally chose to live the life they lead and took no precautions in the process. And now, their past has caught up with them. It's not surprising then, especially in a mostly conservative country like Singapore, that HIV is a "shameful disease".

Quill

[KoLianTai]

And there will be some basta*ds who will purposely go around fucking raw when they have std/hiv+

those bros out went bonking raw..are not considerate for other bros who wanna bonk..this will create chaos in the sex industry.after a raw bonk, no bros wanan go liao.then if never tell bonk raw, then next bro bonk..wait ganna anything..then end of the world liao..hope bros out there think with ur'dick' and head before action.cheers

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Quill

Unlike cancer, HIV/AIDS is easily preventable. And we all know the risk factors involved. It's quite difficult for anyone with HIV to hold their "head up high" when they know that they intentionally chose to live the life they lead and took no precautions in the process. And now, their past has caught up with them. It's not surprising then, especially in a mostly conservative country like Singapore, that HIV is a "shameful disease".

Quill

Unfortunately this society of ours has too many of these so called moral crusaders seating on their high horse of morality looking and judging the rest that does not conform to their perceptions of "moral living"...but each and every one of us has our dark side...it is only some of us choose to live it out while the others tries desparately to hide it knowing full well exposure of their dark secret will destroy them..

[collin_23]

I would advise against telling your peers about your problems unless u very confident u will not be ostracised or they will not use it as blackmail against u. Frankenstine is right, cheonging is still not acceptable in sg must less stds. They will shun u like plaque. U can't trust society nowadays as it is a war in business.

What u can do will be to take extra precaution yourself so as not to affect or spread to your family. Take good care of your health and have plenty of exercise to build up your immune system along with plenty of fruits and vegetables.