7 Truths About The Female Orgasm

[Wannabeone]

Read this online..........Just thot this is good to share here....enjoy and feel free to comment......

Here goes..............Part One

Let's face it. Few among us talk truthfully or openly about sex, especially to our partners. It's high time we do some communicating. In hopes of shedding a little light on the dark corners, here are the seven truths about the female orgasm that every woman (and her lover) should know.

The First Truth
All Women Climax Differently.
Some of us have orgasms from clitoral stimulation only, others by stimulating the G spot, or Grafenberg spot, which is a sensitive, nerve-intensive area about two inches back inside the front wall of the vagina. And some women experience orgasm through both the clitoris and G spot, though rarely at the same time unless they are lucky enough to have been born with bionic genitalia.


Because our bodies are all unique, there's no fail-proof recipe for bringing on a female orgasm. We must discover what works for us through trial and error. Jenny, 21, in an attempt to enlighten herself and friends to all our female orgasmic capacity, took the matter into her own hands, so to speak. She reveals: "I ended up buying a Betty Dodson video about achieving orgasmic ecstasy, and I had a screening for friends. We served mango and angel food cake. The video talked about moving your hips, deep breathing, using your pelvic floor (pc) muscles, touching your clitoris and rocking your pelvis." One thing to keep in mind as you explore the way your body works: G spot orgasms aren't more "sophisticated" than those triggered by the clitoris. Nor is one necessarily better than the other. Research shows that the nerve impulses resulting from various orgasms all look the same regardless of how they were precipitated. The result is generally three to five vaginal contractions followed by full-body release of muscle tension that leaves you more serene than an hour-long massage.


The Second Truth
Orgasms Don't (Pardon the Pun) Come Easily.
Life would be so divine if orgasms were as predictable as our credit-card bills. Dream on. Unlike the case with men, who can't seem to relate to us on this one, female orgasms with a partner require harmonizing four components: mechanical know-how, savvy communication skills, a certain comfort level with the partner and complete mind and body receptivity. Bottom line: It takes practice, because even if we know every nuance of our clitoris or G spot, there's no guarantee we'll get the orgasm goddess dancing.


One of the reasons orgasms can be difficult to achieve is that we tend to need different types of stimulation at different times when we're making love.
Small differences of touch make big differences with women. Sometimes we need harder pressure, other times more delicate strokes.


The clitoris has as many nerve endings as the penis, but they are concentrated in such a small surface area that sometimes even the slightest touch can be too much. What's more, the approach that worked magic yesterday may have little effect on us today. While it would be dreamy to have a lover who, in an osmosis kind of way, knows exactly where to touch us and with what degree of vigor, here in the real world there's no way our mate can know what is right on or all wrong . . . unless we start talking, which conveniently leads us to the next truth.


The Third Truth
Our Partners Need Pointers On What Turns Us On.
What may have sent our mate's previous partner flying across the room from pleasure (although such images of our lover's past sexual encounters do horrific things to the esteem and therefore, in general, should not be conjured) may do nothing for us. Such is the nature of the unpredictable female erogenous zone.

Our job is threefold: First, we must realize that such differences are perfectly normal; second, we must educate our mates about the variances in female anatomy and orgasmic propensity if they don't already know; and third, we must explain and even (eek!) demonstrate what turns us on.


If you are bold, the direct approach, during or before the act of making love, is the most effective. Tell your partner outright, "I want to show you how I come." Then try to cast aside all modesty and get on with the show.


After your private showing, the transition from self-stimulation to partner participation can be somewhat tricky. Some sex therapists suggest trying this technique: First hold your partner's hand and guide his finger until you have an orgasm. Next time, guide his finger until you're close to orgasm, then let go and have him bring you to climax alone. Finally, let him go the whole way without your assistance.


As you're showing your partner the ropes, keep the lines of communication open, advises Julia, 26: "Guys have no way of knowing if what they're doing is right, so it's up to us to let them know." With that in mind, keep talking while you're making love, telling your partner gently, so as not to seem demanding or critical, "That's not good now; do more of what you were doing before," or whatever it is that triggers your orgasm.


If you're so shy about expressing your sexual desires that the idea of putting on such a brazen demonstration is enough to make you want to run to a nunnery, try warming up to the conversation slowly, suggests Susan, 23. "One way to approach the subject is to ask your partner what he likes, and then tell him what turns you on. It can be awkward to say what you like, but if you can't talk about it with your partner, the sex might not ever improve," she says.


A final word of caution: Be very clear when describing what you need. If you're too subtle, your partner won't get it.


The Fourth Truth
Intercourse, Alone, Doesn't Cut It (At Least, for Most of Us).
For many of us, foreplay is the real play when it comes to making love. Intercourse on its own is often more of a pleasant afterthought or an erotic prelude to what really gets us going, which, more often than not, is manual stimulation or oral sex. In fact, according to some estimates, close to half of all sexually active women don't have orgasms regularly through intercourse.


"Men and women's sexual experiences are very different from one another," explains one sex therapist.

"There's a tendency in our culture for women to conform to the male sexual experience, which is intercourse. But intercourse is not an effective way for women to reach orgasm. The two major erogenous areas in women are the clitoris and the G spot, and intercourse isn't efficient at stimulating either."


Because of the female orgasm's rare appearance during penetration, it's pretty seldom that we're able to climax in unison with our mates, a feat that many men believe is the gold standard in sex. It shouldn't be, though, because such demands put a lot of pressure on both partners. Sure, it may be nice to strive for, and when it comes, we can howl at the moon in erotic harmony, but such events shouldn't be forced.


Of course, certain sexual positions -- girl on top, giving us all the control, and doggy style, to name a couple -- are better than others at hitting the right spots during penetration. And, of course, practice with an eager-to-please partner will help spur those wild horses to gallop across our pelvic floor.


Having a partner whose anatomy complements yours (meaning that your pelvic bones bump and grind in just the right spot, stimulating your clitoris in the process) will also improve your chances of reaching orgasm through intercourse. So will the simple act of manually stimulating your clitoris during penetration.

[Wannabeone]

Part Two

The Fifth Rule
Not All Orgasms Have the Same Oomph.
Orgasms can be as varied as good wines. Some spark a quick flutter that doesn't stray far from the source, like a crisp sauvignon blanc on the tip of the tongue. Others ignite a full-body experience with a long, luscious finish, similar to an aged cabernet. However, one type of orgasm should never be considered more desirable than the other, especially because we just don't have a choice on which one will come. If stronger orgasms are valued more than the flightier ones, performance anxiety and frustration to achieve them will surely contaminate our enjoyment of whatever does end up coming.


That said, some authorities on the subject contend that there are a variety of ways to enhance our orgasms. So, they're worth a try if you're curious. Kegel exercises, which involve repeatedly squeezing the pelvic floor (pc) muscles, much as you do when you really have to pee on your way home from an extended happy hour, are one technique to build those muscles that surround the vagina, rectum and urethra. This presumably puts the spark back in your orgasms.


Certain other techniques, such as almost bringing yourself to climax but then switching your source of stimulation from, say, your clitoris to your G spot, may also enhance your orgasms when you allow yourself to finally come. Breathing deeply into the abdomen (not something most of us stomach-sucking women are used to doing, especially when naked and within such close proximity of our lover) relaxes the erogenous area and increases the pleasure, as does rocking the pelvis. And, of course, many women are able to have multiple orgasms to double or quadruple their pleasure.


On the subject of multiple orgasms, according to sex therapists, most women are capable of having more than one orgasm within the same lovemaking session, but, like learning to have one, some practice and knowing a few trade secrets can help. For one, the clitoris is usually way too sensitive after our first orgasm to get direct stimulation again and doesn't want to be touched, so if you want to go for doubles, wait at least a minute before picking up where you left off. Then, when you're not so hyperaroused, continue on doing what you did when the first one arrived.


The Sixth Truth
The Mind Has More Verve Than a Vibrator.
You're probably well aware of the mind's uncanny role as gatekeeper to sexual release. A big part of our mental capacity to encourage or withhold those desirable pelvic rumblings revolves around trust.
To get into the orgasmic state of mind, we must, for instance, trust that our midnight cowboy (a) won't point and giggle at our unleashed display of sexual ecstasy in the nude; (b) will remain as concerned about the status of the condom as we are throughout sex; and (c) will consider the boundaries that we set prior to the act as holy as Monday-night football.


Orgasm is also more likely if our emotional connection with our partner is fully functioning. Foreplay, once again, is what sparks our emotional kindling. Eye contact, talking and loosening up the old erotic joints, so to speak, through gentle and suggestive massage, will help shift the mind into lovemaking gear. Without an emotional and mental connection to our partner, it's pretty near impossible to warm up the nether regions properly and give our orgasms even a fighting chance.


More often than many of us would care to admit, however, the mind starts wandering when our body and partner are otherwise willing. We start thinking about bills, errands we have to run, that nightmare project due tomorrow at noon. When such mental disasters strike, we can either kiss that orgasm goodbye or lasso those distractions and, once they're contained, refocus on the erotic here and now.


Easier said than done, but a few tricks are worth a shot. Mina, 26, concentrates on her boyfriend's sounds and his breathing if her mind dares to wander. Elisa, 23, focuses on all the different sensations she's feeling, blocking her mind of everything else. Susan, 23, engages her partner in conversation, sometimes just talking about what they're doing, when her thoughts start to drift. Thinking about erotic images and scenarios or, better yet, sharing them with your partner will also get your mind in proper orgasm mode.


Due to our intrepid anatomy and all the other reasons previously discussed, many of us become stressed about taking so long to have an orgasm. Because so many of us have been socially engineered to please others (especially men) and think of ourselves and our own pleasure last, letting go and allowing our orgasms to come on their own accord can be psychologically challenging. This can cause all sorts of anxiety, all the more if we're simultaneously worrying that our mate is getting bored, discouraged or antsy for his turn.


Here is a little secret: Most lovers (unless they are sexually selfish) get exorbitant amounts of pleasure from watching and helping their mates become sexually activated. Most of them are not looking at the clock, either. So, don't feel guilty about all the attention being lavished upon you, and just ignore any notion that sex is only about pleasing your partner. Making love is all about giving and receiving.


The Seventh Truth
Orgasms Aren't Proof of Good Sex.
Some women might wildly disagree, but the rest of us often find the tender caresses, the naked bonding, and the undivided attention that precedes or follows a hearty romp just as pleasurable as those spine-tapping pelvic throbs. Some men, too, might not be able to comprehend this female concept of passionate lovemaking, but that's their problem.


A sex therapist explains a common dynamic: "The male ego often gets bruised if their partners don't have an orgasm. The issue gets even more complicated if a woman feels as though something is wrong with her if she doesn't climax. Truth is, it's not that common for women to have orgasms during intercourse. Lovemaking needs to be broadened to a fuller experience, not just limited to penetration."


Orgasms, however, are important to achieve with your partner on a somewhat frequent basis. After all, your mate is the only one who gets to see this completely sexual and vulnerable surrender, and sharing your orgasms with the person you love is a spiritual thing. Don't shortchange yourself if you're not getting them. It can be easy to convince yourself that orgasms don't matter in the big scheme of your relationship because it takes you so long to come and you can just masturbate alone later, but when you do that, you're denying yourself a truly unique and soulful connection with your partner.

[Eternity_Gal]

hmmm.. this is almost accurate. thank you for sharing..
Y.T

[nirvana]

will take note.

million thanks

heheh,
nirvana

^_^

[nirvana]

Originally Posted by Wannabeone

Tell your partner outright, "I want to show you how I come." Then try to cast aside all modesty and get on with the show.


n.

dunno my gal will say this to me anot?

[lawry]

Originally Posted by nirvana

dunno my gal will say this to me anot?

brudder nirvana..

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[tittyhawk]

Informative and entertaining....thanks for sharing....

[shanghian]

Wow, So much information to absorb. Must practice,practice,practice...thanks a million

[nirvana]

Originally Posted by lawry

brudder nirvana..

I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW LIAO..... something i know.. tat u cant hide.. kekekekekekekeke

hehehehe..wat u know? if it is private life matter.. dun say in main please. hehe..wat u know?

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[japboy]

Originally Posted by nirvana

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pm me? hehehehe

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[deedesilover]

Originally Posted by Eternity_Gal

hmmm.. this is almost accurate. thank you for sharing..
Y.T

Almost? What is this missing?

[nirvana]

Originally Posted by deedesilover

Almost? What is this missing?

LOVE LOVE LOVE

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[mayday]

wahh...this sures make for gd reading..haha..e_gal, do fill us in on the missing part ya? learning experience for all.

[asdfghjkl]

later series coming on..

[Wannabeone]

Pick this up from the net......dont know if its been posted before....but anyway...hope it will help and remember to enjoy

Female Ejaculation Techniques

The ejaculate is very much like prostrate fluid. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. It does not have the look, smell or taste of urine. It is almost odorless. The taste varies, depending on the time of the month and diet, and possibly other factors, such as amount of stimulation received prior to ejaculating or time since the last ejaculation. It can vary from an almost honey sweet, sour, bitter, or a combination of these tastes.

Even though it is ejaculated from the urethra, it is most definitely not urine. It is absolutely impossible to pee during a orgasm unless there is a weak pubococcygeus muscle. This is very important, and it is important for the female and her partner to both understand this. The pubococcygeus muscle contracts when terminating a stream of urine, and is the muscle which contracts during orgasm. This contraction helps prevent retrograde ejaculation (ejaculation back into the bladder), and of course prevents the bladder from draining during orgasm.


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SIMULATION
Stimulate the clitoris with a moist finger, or with your tongue. Performing cunnilingus while rubbing her breasts with your hands can be quite stimulating for her. At any rate, continue clitoral stimulation until she is lubricated. At this point slide two fingers into her vagina. Allow them to move along the front wall of the vagina. You should encounter an area about 2 inches in, which should be somewhat enlarged. This is the G spot. It lies directly along the urethra, and is located almost directly behind the clitoris.


Ejaculation is almost always triggered by stimulating the G spot. Clitoral stimulation can often assist in helping her reach an ejaculation, and also can make it more intense. But stimulating the G spot is usually necessary at least initially. Once she starts ejaculating easily, she may find that clitoral stimulation alone is sufficient. Your picture could be here.


STROKING
Stroking can be done a number of ways. The two fingers can rub the area as a unit, or they can take opposite strides, similar to walking. A third method involved sliding the two finders out a fraction of an inch, and pushing them back in, similar to the in- out motion of intercourse, but with smaller strokes. Initially pace the stimulation somewhat slow. Alternate with clitoral stimulation either with the thumb, other hand, or mouth/tongue. Also try simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and G spot. Simultaneous may be too intense for some but necessary for ejaculation for others. When she starts bearing down, and you feel the vagina contract, begin pumping rapidly. When she is in the middle of an orgasm, stimulate the clitoris at the same time, and pump the G spot gently, but very rapidly.



IF SHE ISN'T EJACULATING...
If she does not succeed after a short time, have her roll over on her stomach, and get up on her knees. You will find stimulating the G spot much easier in this position, and she will most likely respond much better. With the two fingers turned down, slide your two fingers back into her vagina. Find the G spot and continue stimulating the G spot. You may use the other hand to stimulate the clitoris. If after a couple of orgasms, using rapid pumping on the G spot during orgasm, she still has not ejaculated, then turn the hand around, putting the thumb into the vagina.


The thumb will likely not reach the G spot, but don't worry, it should come up to meet the thumb during orgasm. Take the two fingers and lay them down on the clit. Allow the entire curve between the thumb and forefinger to lie along her from the vagina to her clitoris, and begin pumping with the thumb, and rubbing the clit at the same time. When she starts an orgasm, start pumping the entire hand rapidly. At this point she will most likely ejaculate. The trick is to massage the area where the urethra comes out, while stimulating the clitoris and G spot. This will help to override the feeling she is about to pee, and allow her to let it pass.



Be aware that the female is not only capable of multiple orgasms, but also multiple ejaculations. It is not unusual for her to have from 3 to 5 ejaculations before depleting her supply of cum. Once she has ejaculated one or more times, you can continue with intercourse. Entering from behind will stimulate the G-spot more easily than missionary style, and often additional ejaculations will occur during intercourse. Even if they don't, she will be highly excited, and very sensitive. The final result will most likely be the most intense and pleasurable sex she has ever had.