Will You Let Your Partner Do A Tattoo??

[Draculito]

Will you allow yr partners (GF, wife or FB) go for a tattoo?

Lately, my partner who was in her late 20s was so insisted to
have a tattoo done on her back which I keep objecting.

I have been trying to tell her out on this ink session with reasons such as religion, society rejection and my personal discomfort. But she doesn’t seem to take my advices and had booked her inking session a month ago and next Saturday will be her inking D-day. This has lead to some unhappiness between us.

Some info on the tattoo design. It was a design like a Chinese or Japanese painting of a branch with some cherry blossoms. Design was quite a big one starting from her shoulder blade leading down to middle of her back. Therefore, she will need to unhook or take off her bra during the inking session.

She told me it will be done by a female tattoo artist. But at this studio, there was this male tattoo artist which was her old classmate. And this cherry blossom design was his procession. I have throw her a question on what happen if on the very day and this female tattoo artist unable to be there to do the inking for her and suggest this classmate do on her behalf. She says this will not happen. I do trust my partner fully but I don’t trust this group of people or her ex classmate at the tattoo studio. My partner told me to tack along if I don’t trust her. If I were to tack along, does this mean I agree to her being inked?

Both of us have a great sex life together and we are very into Doggie. But now I don’t know if I am able to do Doggie on her with that tattoo. I will be very put off with that ink on her. I don’t even know if I can put up with missionary or cow girl.

I just want to hear out from SBF Bros & Sis point of view on this issue. Thanks..

[Johnston]

are you complaining over


1) people (MALE) other than you can see her teats

or

2) the tatoo?

if 1) = she can wear those stick bra pad thing to cover her nipples, and jobs done.... but if you are throwing a fit over guy see her teats, then good luck if go see doctor because doctor also may see her teats.

if 2) = consider this saying "when a man is fucking a hot babe and usually wants to continue fucking her, he will do very little to anger her". Is she your wife / gf and is the sex more important or learning to cope with your tattoo dislike more important?

Lastly: Why the hell are you complaning about tatoo when so many bro haf a tatoo fetish... in general a back tattoo sound okay, it only when so many like maia lee then got probems....

[BiRd13]

Why not? Usually professional tattooist will cover the person with cloth/blanket etc especially when comes to 'private parts'.

My ex had a tattoo of butterfly on her buttock... And it was done by a male tattooist. Of course I am around to make sure he dun do anything funny =)

[Johnston]

lol tis remind me about some short news article about a hubby throw a fit about his wife see gynae.... it could be wong li-lin hubby - dotnt know

but anyway he say something likE:

i dont wan her to give birth her: i want her to give birth in foreign hospital becaos dont want SG docter see my wifey private part

most people who work closely with human body and/or medical probably see teats / pussy more than you ever see in whole life and they could give a shit.

[Blanka]

I would be (not overly) concerned about the hygiene as well as possible infection. Besides, it doesn't added any value to my sex life . . . but that's just me!

[hickeybites]

TS: your unhappiness seems to stem from many levels... but what exactly is the "deal-breaker" here?

1) that you're basically against tattoos of any kind on any part of your partner's body?.... or

2) that the design of the tattoo is large & in the prominent spot which is an eye-sore for you while u doggy partner? .... or

3) that the design came from your partner's ex-classmate whom you distrust? .... or

4) your partner's frontal assets may be revealed to people whom u don't think deserve to see them?


Personally I would accord partner (hubby & bf only... FB why bother?) respect by informing him I'm getting inked & show him design, but ultimately it's my body & it's my choice.
But I'll be willing to listen & discuss amicably if partner raises violent objections. The key is what exactly is THE deal-breaker for you? Cannot be all above 4 points right?

Tattoos are personal lah & your partner also not a young gal anymore. Just remind her that it's for life & she jolly well like the design & that it better have significant meaning for her.
As it's so big and in such a prominent area, she'll have to take extra care of her skin. Sun rays, aging skin... there'll be a major difference having a colourful tat on large area of skin possibly prone to sagging VS a single-coloured tat on smaller skin surfaces which are tighter (e.g. ankles, wrists, back of neck). Do things must think long term... imagine 20yrs from now... hmm...
(P.S. design of tattoo does sound rather unique & nice )

[Johnston]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

Tattoos are personal lah & your partner also not a young gal anymore. Just remind her that it's for life & she jolly well like the design & that it better have significant meaning for her.
As it's so big and in such a prominent area, she'll have to take extra care of her skin. Sun rays, aging skin... there'll be a major difference having a colourful tat on large area of skin possibly prone to sagging )

Whoa shit words to tell her right now!!!

Theres also the issue of "top up" as color tattoo will fade and if u want to maintain : go touch up again lah...

also kindy remind her that tatoo is nt like marker or henna, u want to erase u need to use laser and in general laser meet human skin = no good

[freezetheDB]

my own opinion is that if she really wants a tattoo, just respect her decision. Be glad its not fucking tribal or any generic butterfly design

A relationship is about compromises.

If you are worried about the male tattoist friend, just be with her during her inking.

[zacarie]

if the tattoist are professionals they would not let her expose herself in front of them.
tattoos are really personal choices. some frown upon in while others are open to it. if she is sure tt she wanna do it. then maybe u should respect her decision? but remind her it's for life. but if it's something meaningful tt she wants it inked on her then it'll be difficult for her to change her mind. just make sure u guys check on the past works of this artist. dont want it to end up looking like something else instead of cherry blossom.

[callmebad]

if the tattoo is nicely done, I won't mind so much!

[Tigerwhip]

TS, better both talk it out on why u object and wat her reason she must have this tattoo.

believe TS dont feel good having her doing it at old classmate working place is one of the reason. if so, change to another studio.

[thomas88]

I'd gladly sponsor my partner's tattoo and even joined her together to get one done myself.

I loves gal with beautiful tattoo.....

[candypuss]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

my own opinion is that if she really wants a tattoo, just respect her decision. Be glad its not fucking tribal or any generic butterfly design

A relationship is about compromises.

If you are worried about the male tattoist friend, just be with her during her inking.

What's wrong with a butterfly tattoo?????

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Draculito

I just want to hear out from SBF Bros & Sis point of view on this issue. Thanks..

It's "tag" along not "tack" along.

In addition, "Advice" is non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural.

As for tattoo thingy. You have to realise that you don't own your partner's body. It belongs to her and her alone. She is free do do what she wants with it and to show any part of it to anyone of her choosing. You have no say in the matter.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

......Be glad its not fucking tribal or any generic butterfly design

Ha-Ha! I was just telling a lady friend on my thought on butterfly designs.
Same thought Great minds