What decision should be make ?

lonelly · #1 11-10-2009, 11:33 PM

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

whitegals · #2 12-10-2009, 01:57 AM

You really want to help? Can, here's a suggestion.

Advise your friend to marry the malaysian gal. It is the honourable thing to do. And based on his income he can only support one gal, so rightfully, he will support his wife, which is his duty as a man.

And you my fren, as his fren, wanting to help him, can send money to the viet gal. Simple?

AhYe · #3 12-10-2009, 02:12 AM

marry the msia gal...

from wat i read, he is probably hooked on via KC.
go the read the Matters of The Heart part of this forum and u know wat i mean.

Unrepented · #4 12-10-2009, 02:20 AM

By the way, "already ROM" means married liao. Your GuyFriend don't have to marry the same malaysian girl twice. Problem solved.

Just one malaysian girl in the whole issue, right?

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Originally Posted by lonelly

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

Flying Wing · #5 12-10-2009, 03:28 AM

Think the smarter choice is to stick with the Malaysian gal and if possible, loose the Viet.

The way I see it, the only real solution here for the Viet gal is to take her entire family into yours or out of her environment and into another. But then, even that may not solve the problem.

Sending money over also not say a perm or solid solution. Coz you end up burning a hole in your wallet. Which may eventually become another problem considering how fas inflation moves about these days.

To bluntly put it. Its just not our war, coz the quality and standard of life/living is still not considered to be very similiar. The best option is to go for as normal as possible to your current social enviornment/setting.

Sorry if i'm being too blunt.

BMW Lover · #6 12-10-2009, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Unrepented

By the way, "already ROM" means married liao. Your GuyFriend don't have to marry the same malaysian girl twice. Problem solved.

Just one malaysian girl in the whole issue, right?

Agreed.

Bro lonelly

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By the way, how you conversed to the Viet gal. Is it in Vietnamese?

thaivisitor · #7 12-10-2009, 09:58 AM

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Originally Posted by lonelly

My GuyFriend-A already ROM with a malaysian girl for 2years ( she got PR liao )

Recently, he get involved with a viet girl and keep sending her money every month because her family really very poor ( Father pass away, mother not working and brother studying )

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry

With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger

What should he do ?

I do not know how to help him

Did your friend ask you to seek advice on how to help him or not? Did he tells you he cannot cope? Did he tell you that he will leave his Malaysian wife and marry the Viet girl? Are you in a position to tell him what to do which means he will say "OK, since you say do this, I'll do this"? Or does he have a mind of his own and make his own decisions?

If he did not seek help or makes his own decisions, then you better mind your own business.

My 2 baht worth.
Tee Vee

lglg666 · #8 12-10-2009, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by lonelly

On another hand, the malaysian girl keep asking my friend-A to get marry.
With my GuyFriend-A income, he can only support one ger
What should he do ?
I do not know how to help him

Hello...lonelly,
Don't do a thing...that is my advice to you. He has to learn to take the right path for himself. Btw it is a no-brainer....a stable GF vs a Viet FL???? Yes....so sad that there are lots of FLs having money problem back at home but I can find very few FLs who want to be a "FL" to make their clients happy in return for love.

My 2 cents worth. He won't be thankful to you becoz he may have to lose one girl in the end. He may then blame you for this.

lglg666 · #9 12-10-2009, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Or does he have a mind of his own and make his own decisions?

If he did not seek help or makes his own decisions, then you better mind your own business.

Agreed. Yes....this is the best advice by a sn bro!!! This is a "no-win" situation, best to stay out so that when your friend "woke-up" from his nightmare then be there to help him stand up again as a good friend.

JanJan1979 · #10 12-10-2009, 12:11 PM

How come recently S'pore guys are so "into" Viet gers?

Sending money over every month will not be a permanent solution, whereas it will only burden your friend's expenses even more and how long more can he "tahan" supporting the Viet ger & her family??

skycock · #11 12-10-2009, 02:46 PM

Tell him that the answer lies within the deepest vault of his heart and to which only he alone holds the key.

whitegals · #12 12-10-2009, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by skycock

Tell him that the answer lies within the deepest vault of his heart and to which only he alone holds the key.

Wah lau eh, sibei cheeem ah. What does that mean in English ah?

thaivisitor · #13 13-10-2009, 10:05 AM

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Originally Posted by whitegals

Wah lau eh, sibei cheeem ah. What does that mean in English ah?

LOL!

Tee Vee

naturegreen · #14 13-10-2009, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by lonelly

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Seems to me he sympathises with the Viet girl more then anything else. Do you marry someone just because you sympathise with her? It will not work out in the long run

Urgent26 · #15 13-10-2009, 11:49 AM

recently read a funny book titled money number one. it details the experience of an ang mo in thailand. he recounts how different girls would all tell the same buffalo story ie, the prized animal at home is sick and brother needs school money etc.

somehow i think ts is talking about himself. and i think if ts or friend decides to wake up, they'll probably decide to shoot the buffalo and go hom