Just a thought - can you accept this?

[bonbong88]

Just a thought; is it alright for your girlfriend to keep texting a guy 1-1 on top of daily work stuffs and also everyday talking to one another also on personal stuffs too?

Is it normal to feel jealous?

Yes you would think they are just friends and your girlfriend does not mean she's your everything. But how do I rid this feeling off of jealousy? Is it because at a threatened position?

[unsung80]

I got used to it, am texting other women as well all the time. True feeling and trust more important between us. Is normal to be jealous, learn to deal with it bro.

[bonbong88]

Originally Posted by unsung80

I got used to it, am texting other women as well all the time. True feeling and trust more important between us. Is normal to be jealous, learn to deal with it bro.

Thanks bro for the comments. I am just afraid of the feelings that may occur between them through long term conversation together etc that may cause her heart to waver and jeopardise the relationship. Am I thinking too much?

[unsung80]

Originally Posted by bonbong88

Thanks bro for the comments. I am just afraid of the feelings that may occur between them through long term conversation together etc that may cause her heart to waver and jeopardise the relationship. Am I thinking too much?

frequent communication with her, concern about her friend too, this will ease your thought. that's what my gf did too.. always telling me about her guy friends.

[bonbong88]

Originally Posted by unsung80

frequent communication with her, concern about her friend too, this will ease your thought. that's what my gf did too.. always telling me about her guy friends.

Do you feel "annoyed or sian" when she keeps sharing about her guy friends; how impressive they were etc?

[unsung80]

Originally Posted by bonbong88

Do you feel "annoyed or sian" when she keeps sharing about her guy friends; how impressive they were etc?

Not at all, is good she shared than not share with you. Impressive about her friends, no way. Everyone got it strength and weakness. Is better to know her impressive friend than not been. I think u lack of self confident to feel this way. We had plenty of our own impressive fun time too.

[ExBros]

Originally Posted by bonbong88

Thanks bro for the comments. I am just afraid of the feelings that may occur between them through long term conversation together etc that may cause her heart to waver and jeopardise the relationship. Am I thinking too much?

Not at all, it can happen, happened to me... one day my former ex-gf moved in with the guy whom she swore is too young for her, treats him like a Didi etc... But...

He really CMI type, her besties warned her, but she wavered. After 4 months, and being tortured by him, (eg locked her in his house while he went KTV with their mutual friends till police had to come rescue her) she returned to me..

That's why former. Now really ex-gf, she posted a clip of a rainy day and said 连老天爷也替他流泪，when she was on the way to airport... And wished me all the best

But things have happened / changed... Long story

Originally Posted by unsung80

Not at all, is good she shared than not share with you. Impressive about her friends, no way. Everyone got it strength and weakness. Is better to know her impressive friend than not been. I think u lack of self confident to feel this way. We had plenty of our own impressive fun time too.

If he was "impressive" I would have wished her all the best as I did when I heard that he was 富二代... but he wasn't and sponged on her.

Even so cheapo as to use her perfume and "bought" her another bottle for her birthday but only paid HALF! She had to foot the bill incl GST. Wahlau!

You mentioned she isn't your everything... I guess it's fine... Bt if going to marry type... U both need to have a good talk, but if u read stories here on SBF. Even married also she can continue behind ur back...

There are no guarantees Bro!

[arigatogozaimas]

TS, if you cannot accept then don't bother to get a gf. Nowadays most ppl are either texting in a group chats or 1-1 chats.

There are so many social apps and the apps served the purpose of texting.

[comm]

Sometimes girls heart soft after listening to honey word and can make mistake

If can give them a 2nd chance that is good, of course must have some punishment otherwise u will keep on feeling unhappy inside

TS u can check their whatsapp and see what kind of conversation they are having, if lovely dovey and mushy type then cannot la.....if normal talking between frds then is ok loh

[HelloAngel]

I don't agree on checking whatsapp texts. It's infringement of privacy and unnecessary.

TS, have you met this guy before? Friend or colleague? You can arrange a lunch get together and meet him. This will make your presence known and you can access if the guy has other intentions besides friendship. I have many v good guy friends but I don't have one that I text daily. If I don't feel comfy that my partner text a gal daily, I won't allow this to happen in my life too cos a relationship works both ways. You feel jealous is cos you care so talk it out and see what she says.

[FunnyHippo]

One day that guy sure jiak your gf...
Just like how you also want to jiak other chiobus...

[wangzzz]

Originally Posted by ExBros

There are no guarantees Bro!

Very true and very well defined.
Nowadays, girls no more virtues nor morality.
Anything goes behind your back.

[Tamader]

Originally Posted by arigatogozaimas

TS, if you cannot accept then don't bother to get a gf. Nowadays most ppl are either texting in a group chats or 1-1 chats.

There are so many social apps and the apps served the purpose of texting.

Agree with you to the point.

[assster]

Its a trust issue. It would help if you know the guy, offer to ask the guy to join you both for dinner etc. If she keep refusing or finding excuses then start worrying.. :P

but honestly, i don't believe in platonic relationships anymore these days. As long as both parties look half decent, believe me always end up in bed'

[bonbong88]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

I don't agree on checking whatsapp texts. It's infringement of privacy and unnecessary.

TS, have you met this guy before? Friend or colleague? You can arrange a lunch get together and meet him. This will make your presence known and you can access if the guy has other intentions besides friendship. I have many v good guy friends but I don't have one that I text daily. If I don't feel comfy that my partner text a gal daily, I won't allow this to happen in my life too cos a relationship works both ways. You feel jealous is cos you care so talk it out and see what she says.

Thanks for the opinion. Personally I feel if it's about office work only it's fine, you want to get too personal I don't think it's ok unless it's normal friends chatting.

But normal friends chatting won't go to the point that I felt neglected. Moreover I don't do this to her as well. The way they go personal it's like to the point machiam they are boy girlfriend like caring for one another. How could you take it?

Even I myself I don't do such, because I know of the limitations and the respective zones that shouldn't cross over or something.

I have highlighted my unhappiness, but she kind of don't seem to agree to me...