Breaking off a flirt

Lester1 · #1 19-07-2006, 12:18 AM

This is my first thread, i have 1 concern.

I have an ons with this prc contact I noe for a while in shanghai last week when i am there for biz, i was wondering if experience bro here cn give some advice of some of the method to break off a flirt after up a girl. Do i jus go missing since she is oversea and i onli go shanghai once a mth. or should i have more session with her then go disappear. or should i cum up with some stupid excuse.

This is my first flirt after my marriage, thru i hv some fl experience, but never one tat i hv with a someone tat i hv been tryin 2 sian.

Would appreicate if bro here can give ur 2 cent worth advice.

Johnston · #2 19-07-2006, 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Lester1

This is my first thread, i have 1 concern.

I have an ons with this prc contact I noe for a while in shanghai last week when i am there for biz, i was wondering if experience bro here cn give some advice of some of the method to break off a flirt after up a girl. Do i jus go missing since she is oversea and i onli go shanghai once a mth. or should i have more session with her then go disappear. or should i cum up with some stupid excuse.

This is my first flirt after my marriage, thru i hv some fl experience, but never one tat i hv with a someone tat i hv been tryin 2 sian.

Would appreicate if bro here can give ur 2 cent worth advice.

*scratches head.
so you had a ons with a gal who is a flirt , and you've been trying to sian her?
now that you screwed her already, and you dont like her, or maybe she want to screw again, everyday call you ask for screw, you dont like ah?

FL experience as i understand it = pay, screw, cuddle, bath, leave.
and so you had a FL experience with her.
the definition of ONS = screw and leave.

so you want a many night stand, or what exactly? i is confused.
the simplest advice is, ignore completely. after 20 or so miss call most people get the hint. however if you get a supersticky one, who can keep calling more than that, i think you can cancel your handphone if you gave her your regular number.

and that's 20cents of advice.

Criminalz · #3 19-07-2006, 01:29 AM

bro...play only dun get too serious..fling right..dun break up so fast, next time you go back, can look for her again, dun have to sian new one..

Lester1 · #4 19-07-2006, 08:43 AM

Thanks for the 2 bro advice.

Actually i got 2 noe her fm skype. Then when i was in shanghai, i meet her, she is like her photo, a 29 yo haierping girl, a customer service manager who work in shanghai. I notice tat most girl who work in shanghai are actually lonely, so i jus hv dinner with her, ask her if she cn bring me to disco, after tat 2 late, ask 2 send her home and end up the next morning at her plc.

Dont worry, my head is still saint to noe tat this is only a flirt. jus like wat the bro mentioned, it is either i cut it short here and disappear or i play along the next time, with her so dont hv to waste effort.

Any bro have similar experience and wat would b ur advice.

yanki1 · #5 19-07-2006, 08:51 AM

a fling is always a fling. since shes oversea. just carry on lo but know your limits. she might start to ask $ from u. then u will know when to stop. dun be stupid and take her as your sercond wife there. its a time bomb ready to explode

onion_rings · #6 19-07-2006, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by yanki1

a fling is always a fling. since shes oversea. just carry on lo but know your limits. she might start to ask $ from u. then u will know when to stop. dun be stupid and take her as your sercond wife there. its a time bomb ready to explode

Agree! If she din pressure u but she can give u pleasure. So just carry on till she can't give u anymore pleasure but keep on pressure u for money or marriage.

Btw threadstarter, flirt mean she got lotsa f buddy or lotsa BF. Fling shld be the correct word to describe your encounter with her.

Lester1 · #7 19-07-2006, 09:26 AM

Thanks to all the advice. I must say when i see all those that reply have so high a point, and that they are advicing me with so few point, i am indeed thankful.

This is my first encounter with a PRC, and in my work, i have never trusted them. thus, i would tink tat it would apply here too. Seen like the advice is all straight forward, which is to continue until pressure comes then disappear.

I would do tat.

Next week i will b going up again,...would come back and feedback to u all. I feel obligated to.

Thanks again.

viceman · #8 19-07-2006, 09:32 AM

Hi! Bro,

Just remember the golden rule, "F**k and Forget"... Dun get too sticky. It's good if everytime you go back to Shanghai and there is a girl waiting for you, but as you know relationship will develop and go deeper over time, so, screw her for few time and move on...

There are so many PRC in Shanghai, dun worry, you won't miss out on anything...

Happy bonking... Remember to post your FR. A lot of Brudders waiting here...

Cheers!

VM

Lester1 · #9 19-07-2006, 03:34 PM

to thank all the bro here, this is the attached photo of her.

enjoy

< I have taken it out as per JUST4FUN advice. Thanks>

just4fun · #10 19-07-2006, 03:46 PM

You shld know ur limit abt this type of fling....How much can u take??? I mean if she start to call u everyday...sending u threateninig emails/sms/skype/msn....Can u just dump her without her able to reteliate against... and also how well she knows abt u....ur shanghai address / office address / ur company name / telephone no / or even ur singapore address.... just in case..she decides to play the "end game" together aka "u die i die" mentality....

U hv to know where u stand...If not i suggest u better go back and explain everything to her that your relationship with is a mistake from day 1.... dun toy with her anymore....

However, it is ur call....I think u will know what u want best...No 1 can actually tell u what to do... U hv to convince urself.....

Lastly, i dun like the idea of u posting her pics here... i think she will be more devasted to know it one fine day that her pic is posted BIG BIG for everyone viewing....she will hate u even more.... again...this is ur choice...

that my rmb 0.02 cents worth of thoughts...

happy cheonging....

stephan · #11 19-07-2006, 03:48 PM

bro,
What is so call "flirt"? It mean both of u r not serious in relationship, will only get each other once needed to have fun or sex. If she is serious, it mean you r cheated her feeling.

Just frank to her, let her know u just want to flirt, see whether still got chance to get free fxxk or not. dun waste food.

Hanxinco88 · #12 19-07-2006, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Lester1

This is my first thread, i have 1 concern.

I have an ons with this prc contact I noe for a while in shanghai last week when i am there for biz,
Would appreicate if bro here can give ur 2 cent worth advice.

Bro, from my experience, if you are married then treasure your marriage...flirting with flings are common when you are in China...but do remember not to cross the board...i.e..when its time to stop...stop it!!!1 cos chinese MMS are very "good" in capturing your heart and once your heart had been stolen....thats it to your marriage life...it will be RUIN!!!!!

Have FUN but must know when to turn back...!!!

Breaking off is easy with Chinese women....but first make sure they do not know too much information of yourself such as your company names, address, home address and local mobile number etc.....and most importantly dont let them get hold or ctach a glimpse of your IC......when is time to break off....just break off....tell her straight...they will live with it because of their culture....whereby Male Chuvanists rules.......

hope it helps....

Cheers

Lester1 · #13 07-09-2006, 03:00 PM

I jus come back from SHA, after going in n out of there. Have 2 more meeting with her, we did not end in bed...but have heavy petting together, one outside her house, the other in a park, after some pub session.

I keep all your advice and make sure i point to her that i will not break off my wife for her in my first meeting, my surprise, she say, she do not expect any of that, jus be happy that we have our fun. I told her that i am sorry for the ONS, but she say that i should not be sorry, as she enjoy herself too and that she do not expect me to do anything. In fact, the fact that I told her shows that i m a nice person and that I do not wan 2 cheat her.

Is it a trick or wat?

anyway, that prompt me for the 2nd meeting which end up in the park, where i sucked her nipple like no tomorrow...end up with her asking me to call her next time when i am back.

Bro here, what do it do man? as this my first flirt.. really need your help.

t123 · #14 07-09-2006, 03:13 PM

Just be careful, maybe she's toying with your emotions and by just saying all that to you. So that you will visit her more. In Shanghai, much more expats there, more choices for her too. Just one meeting and deduce that you are a nice guy. Beware of "fairy jump", popular scam in China.

Castrol · #15 07-09-2006, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Lester1

I keep all your advice and make sure i point to her that i will not break off my wife for her in my first meeting, my surprise, she say, she do not expect any of that, jus be happy that we have our fun.

Bro here, what do it do man? as this my first flirt.. really need your help.

"break off my wife for her in my first meeting"??? apa ini?

i dont get it man. she said she happy to have fun, heavy petting together outside her house, in the park etc, you sucked her nipples like no tomorrow blah blah blah... and you need help?