Single mum acceptable?

[beck7777]

Bros, just like to have your views..

Can u accept a single mum as your gf, given that she was cheated by her ex(or rather the child's father) and her character is good..

She was cheated in a way that her ex was a married man n only till she was pregnant than she realised he was married..

Any bros willing to accept such a lady??

Cheers!

[Siong2]

Originally Posted by beck7777

Bros, just like to have your views..

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Any bros willing to accept such a lady??

Cheers!

Bro, these things are very common nowadays, do what your feeling tells you to.
For me, I will accept if the feeling is right.

[Tai_zi21]

Who dun make mistakes before?

[laozuzhong]

Why not?

Are you looking for someone who is of good character to be your gf or even your wife, or are you looking for someone that you can bring out and showcase?

The most important issue here is whether you really like this girl or not? Do you like her real enough to accept anything that comes along with the love you have for her. In this case, the kid. Have you seen the kid yet? Do you like the kid? Can you accept the kid as yours if you decide to marry this girl eventually?

Before anyone of you tell me dun talk too much, giving advise or talk talk only very easy.

I'm telling you all these because my gf is a divocee with 2 kids. We have a very fantastic relationship between the kids and the 2 of us. We are getting married next Jan.

What I'm trying to say is that single mothers are acceptable in today's society. It is ultimately up to individual whether can they accept the kids, not so much the mother. Can you take the "side talks" from the older generations? If you can take it or can ignore it, then you will be fine.

The choice is yours.

[beck7777]

Originally Posted by laozuzhong

Why not?


I'm telling you all these because my gf is a divocee with 2 kids. We have a very fantastic relationship between the kids and the 2 of us. We are getting married next Jan.

What I'm trying to say is that single mothers are acceptable in today's society. It is ultimately up to individual whether can they accept the kids, not so much the mother. Can you take the "side talks" from the older generations? If you can take it or can ignore it, then you will be fine.

The choice is yours.

yo bro sound advice from u.. but your family got any problem with her?
i mean afterall she got 2 kids liao..

[Prolink]

YES, I WILL....

Originally Posted by beck7777

Bros, just like to have your views..

Can u accept a single mum as your gf, given that she was cheated by her ex(or rather the child's father) and her character is good..

She was cheated in a way that her ex was a married man n only till she was pregnant than she realised he was married..

Any bros willing to accept such a lady??

Cheers!

[zhivago]

no problem to me either...

Itz very common nowadays, and i love MiLF...

[vernonlcm]

If you really love her. Dun care what other people say. Love her must love her kids too. Can you prepare to accept that? If yes, go for it otherwise please reconsider. Be fair to yourself, to her and to her kids too. This is the things you need to overcome. You must make sure that in event after you have your own kid with her, you still got to be fair to her other kids cos they are innocent. What other people might say is secondary issue already.

[laozuzhong]

Originally Posted by beck7777

yo bro sound advice from u.. but your family got any problem with her?
i mean afterall she got 2 kids liao..

I went through quite a bit of trouble and unsettlement with my folks at the on start. Initially, they are very against the idea of her firstly that she is a divocee and then got excess baggages. but when they have seen the kids and slowly getting to know them, they started to like the 2 kids.

Old folks like well-behaved kids, so these 2 are specially trained to behave. In fact my folks like the 2 kids now. Also they are accepting the fact that their son is going to marry this girl whether they like it or not.

Now they are very happy with the whole thingy about me going to marry my gf with the excess baggages. It's my life after all.

[beck7777]

Originally Posted by laozuzhong

I went through quite a bit of trouble and unsettlement with my folks at the on start. Initially, they are very against the idea of her firstly that she is a divocee and then got excess baggages. but when they have seen the kids and slowly getting to know them, they started to like the 2 kids.

Old folks like well-behaved kids, so these 2 are specially trained to behave. In fact my folks like the 2 kids now. Also they are accepting the fact that their son is going to marry this girl whether they like it or not.

Now they are very happy with the whole thingy about me going to marry my gf with the excess baggages. It's my life after all.

well good to hear it work out for you..

[Hooters666]

I will too and as well the society in general...

Also most single mums are quite strong in character and independent given their circumstances but they ultimately still need a soul mate and lover.

[laozuzhong]

Originally Posted by vernonlcm

If you really love her. Dun care what other people say. Love her must love her kids too. Can you prepare to accept that? If yes, go for it otherwise please reconsider. Be fair to yourself, to her and to her kids too. This is the things you need to overcome. You must make sure that in event after you have your own kid with her, you still got to be fair to her other kids cos they are innocent. What other people might say is secondary issue already.

I totally agree with what Bro Vernonlcm said about being fair to her kids and your own ones when you eventually have them.

You must be equal to all the kids, be it from her past or yours. You must learn to treat all the kids as if they are yours and treat all of them the same. No favouritism allow.

[aLwAYs_hOrNy]

Originally Posted by beck7777

Bros, just like to have your views..

Can u accept a single mum as your gf, given that she was cheated by her ex(or rather the child's father) and her character is good..

She was cheated in a way that her ex was a married man n only till she was pregnant than she realised he was married..

Any bros willing to accept such a lady??

Cheers!

Personlly, i feel that it's ok to accept her, but sometimes u must really get to know her well enough 1st b4 u really get together with her...

Recently, i also got one gf who is also a single mum. But sad to say, we broke up already, partly bcoz of her character not gd. And the other reason is that although she being cheated by her ex bf, but she just couldn't forget abt him. Sometimes she would keep on telling u how gd the guy had treated her, etc. It really makes u get more n more angry each time u hear this kind os stuffs.

[bluezing]

nowadays, it's quite common bah... as long as u 2 really love each other, then shldn't b a prob... but if the child is coming with her, must make sure u can accept the child... else not fair to the kid...

[alvman]

It will always be tough....when things are not the "norm"......there will be obstacles...there will be challenges.

I have two sisters that are fated to be single mums.....you just have to absolutely sure of your feelings. There will be doubts, your trust in her will be tested, your trust in yourself to be fair for your own kids and her kids will be tested. The way in which you balance the harmony in the family between your folks,siblings and your family will be tested.

There will be naysayers....You just live your life...just dun regret any decision you make and follow through your committment. Yes and be sure she is really that Good to commit your whole life into this relationship, not forgetting people Do Change!