lost in my direction

1989 · #1 27-10-2013, 05:41 AM

firstly dun mind my bad English and grammer.

I am 24 this year. a young enterpriser. I also very independent lady. I used to own a shop but recently I close down due to one man show and unable to commit too well.

you maybe asking why don't ask family for help in maintaining the shop.

firstly my parent retired to Malaysia, and my older brother stay there. (I am a Malaysian btw.)

I don't talk to my sister much and I very independent, at some point I know what I really want in business, so they dun ask for help and I don't intend to ask them for help.

I kind of make a lose in the last few month and I don't have saving. if I have saving, I always re-invest in new item. my mum loan me 5k and I promise to return her soon, she didn't chase after it but I so stress about returning her the money. ( btw I close my shop and non of my family know about it)

you maybe asking me why I don't ask my parent for help since my mum can loan me 5k. my mum is a money minded person. if I ask her for money again, she will give all kind of reason, so I used to not asking them for help. my parent retired already and I seriously have no intend to ask them also.

my sister jus got married not long ago, she planning to get a flat here and I kind of don't want to owe favour to them. another reason it because I not very close to my sister.

my brother, he is more broke then me. therefore they is no way I will ask him too.

I dun social a lot therefore ever since I close my shop I have been hiding my room all the time, I kind of know that I running away from problem. I can easily make friend but I can also easily shut down myself among my friend.

ever since I close my shop, I king of start doing event job, so when I need money I find these job, this money is enough for me to survived , as I don't go out and always at home.

I haven't been dating for 10 years. and if someone of you ask, YES, I still a v. I believe in no sex before married.

I consider doing FL and becoming sugar babe so that I can faster earn money and maybe reopen my shop again.

please don't ask me to find what investor or so. I just a small shop.

after a month of thinking and so, I also kind of know the main reason why I close my shop.

I have been doing this for about 5 years, (trade and sales), shop is about 2 years.

yes, I lost now~ I don't know what I really want.

jialatjinjin · #2 27-10-2013, 08:29 AM

sis

DONT DO IT!!!

since you are a V, if you really do it, your moral values will change.

there are other ways to earn money. if you willing to work and earn it the right way.

pm me. i can intro you to my friends company to work. although it may feel degrading to work as an employee. but you can take this positively and build your character. work and save money.. then start a business again.

p/s i also fail in my business before. so i can understand you going through self denial.

and business need strategy and business acumen. not just need money to invest only.

Greendevil · #3 27-10-2013, 09:36 AM

Sis, idon think U here to FL yourself else u will have done so and posting elsewhere. The things is, we human being need to keep ourselves busy busy busy like a bee. So find something to do than hid in your cave. Get a job or something to sort out yr problem first.

stillgottheblue · #4 27-10-2013, 12:48 PM

You want to earn money fast and easy then go the FL or be a KTV route. Please provide good service hor, lol. Unless your sugar daddy is willingly to help, I don't think having sugar daddy is the best way to go. You can work both directions, doing FL while looking for a sugar daddy/daddies. There are many loaded daft men here, willing to throw money at girls.

My advice for you is to drop the fucking and stupid idea of yours. I don't even care if you are a virgin or not. Virgin first night, how much do you want to charge? $5,000? Did you see many successful whores in societies? One thing will lead to another leading to more miseries. Work hard to get what you want. Even if you get nowhere, you will not regret and you will not end up worse than you are now.

fornlcator · #5 27-10-2013, 10:50 PM

Hi sis

My bro run a shop. He started as a worker in similar shop. Working, learning relevant techniques, accumulate experience, establish contacts with good supplier and save money for his capital. He then start his own business after years of suffer.

May be consider to find a job of relevant. Owning a shop can come later after you have knowledge, experience and money etc.

Cheers

maxsee · #6 28-10-2013, 07:43 AM

Selling your soul to the devil is the last thing that you want in your life....go out get a proper job and slowly work yourself up again...good luck...

crood · #7 28-10-2013, 09:27 AM

Y not just get a decent job, married a decent man and work your way up?

If getting fast bucks is a solution to everything, u wont be breaking up the routine.

Once headed to the route, few guys will respect and take you seriously and hard to break the old trade coz whenever u r short of $$, u will just go back to the old trade.

patrickjane · #8 29-10-2013, 02:08 PM

Many have gone down the path of 'darkness' and failed to return to 'light'. Don't do it.

porscheclub · #9 29-10-2013, 10:17 PM

Sis, there are many many young enterprising people like you. You have to know that not everyone is destined to be a business owner & you have to fail to succeed, sometimes failing many times.

The cost to operate a business in Singapore is demoralising and slightly better in Malaysia.

I've known many gals from all over the world who owns a little shop @ home selling anything from bags, cosmetics to fashion and when money evaporates, they turn to FL for a while to make end meets. The cycle carries on & on.

At the end of the day, you need to focus & have a direction in life then work towards it. Good luck.

Since you're a virgin which is a prized item to some people then gift it to someone you love & not to a customer or sugardaddy.

angelababy · #10 29-10-2013, 11:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 1989

firstly dun mind my bad English and grammer.

I am 24 this year. a young enterpriser. I also very independent lady. I used to own a shop but recently I close down due to one man show and unable to commit too well.

you maybe asking why don't ask family for help in maintaining the shop.

firstly my parent retired to Malaysia, and my older brother stay there. (I am a Malaysian btw.)

I don't talk to my sister much and I very independent, at some point I know what I really want in business, so they dun ask for help and I don't intend to ask them for help.

I kind of make a lose in the last few month and I don't have saving. if I have saving, I always re-invest in new item. my mum loan me 5k and I promise to return her soon, she didn't chase after it but I so stress about returning her the money. ( btw I close my shop and non of my family know about it)

you maybe asking me why I don't ask my parent for help since my mum can loan me 5k. my mum is a money minded person. if I ask her for money again, she will give all kind of reason, so I used to not asking them for help. my parent retired already and I seriously have no intend to ask them also.

my sister jus got married not long ago, she planning to get a flat here and I kind of don't want to owe favour to them. another reason it because I not very close to my sister.

my brother, he is more broke then me. therefore they is no way I will ask him too.

I dun social a lot therefore ever since I close my shop I have been hiding my room all the time, I kind of know that I running away from problem. I can easily make friend but I can also easily shut down myself among my friend.

ever since I close my shop, I king of start doing event job, so when I need money I find these job, this money is enough for me to survived , as I don't go out and always at home.

I haven't been dating for 10 years. and if someone of you ask, YES, I still a v. I believe in no sex before married.

I consider doing FL and becoming sugar babe so that I can faster earn money and maybe reopen my shop again.

please don't ask me to find what investor or so. I just a small shop.

after a month of thinking and so, I also kind of know the main reason why I close my shop.

I have been doing this for about 5 years, (trade and sales), shop is about 2 years.

yes, I lost now~ I don't know what I really want.

hey sis,

i feel you. but no one said it will be a 100% success being an entrepreneur.

you are still young.

any problem that can be solved with money is not a problem. any problem that cannot be solved with money and is not within your control is not worth worrying about.

worrying is like a rocking chair. it gives you something to do but it gets you no where.

and seriously? a sugarbabe? or a FL? as a job or career?

no offense seriously? but.. what is the career progression? DIRECTOR OF SUGARBABE CORP? TOP FL OF THE YEAR?

get a real job. that can teach you real skillsets that can be transferrable to your dream of opening up a business again.

any skills and experience learnt during entrepreneurship is never a loss.

being a fl or sugarbabe does not equip you with the mgmt skills you need to run your business.

your business will only ultimately fail again.

jialatjinjin · #11 30-10-2013, 05:17 AM

so true so true

hope thread starter 1989 can find a fresh direction AND NOT TH FLESH DIRECTION!!!

Meliss · #12 30-10-2013, 07:53 AM

value your V, since kept for so long already..

1989 · #13 30-10-2013, 09:49 AM

Hi all,

thank for all the concern regard to reply here or have send me a pm.

don't worry, I wont have the courage to do FL or sugar babe, it only at some point I need a place to clear my thought. maybe somehow a direction path that say:" hey, money isn't more important, moral then it important"

i will take my time slowly into doing business and give me some time, i will climb slowly up. i just need the time.

for some of your guys information, i actually holding on to 2 job, it not that i have no job.

smiles and peace

prettymannequin · #14 30-10-2013, 10:26 AM

Get a relevant job, pick up skills, and start anew. Good luck sis!

sixplus · #15 30-10-2013, 12:44 PM

being an independent person as you are, I am sure you be able to get through this tough period. Clear your mind and focus on your long term goals, and slowly work towards it step by step.

Being a FL or getting a SD doesn't mean it will solve all problems, otherwise then everyone would be a FL already. There are many proper opportunities out there to earn a living, just don't give up on yourself so easily.

take care.