Is it worth it?

shadowlunar04 · #1 23-04-2005, 09:00 PM

I'm going to relate one incident happened to one of my friends. I will not give names because I think that friend of mine also surfs this forum.

Ok, it goes like this. This friend of mine is into the GL scene for more than 10 years, since army days. He was engaged to a sg gal 2 years back and planned to have the customary wedding beginning this year. He met a PRC gal towards the end of last year and things got pretty sticky. He was attached to this PRC gal very soon. This PRC gal used a student visa and was studying in Nayang Fine Arts Academy. My friend was like kanna gong tao to this PRC gal, buying expensive stuffs for her, giving her money for her studies and sending some back to her family in China.

Things started to get messy when my friend decided to breakup with his fiancee and filed a divorce. Some of my friends and I tried to persuade him to drop the idea but with no avail. His fiancee took the my friend's decision as what normal gals will do. She cried for days and I had tried to console her (I know her quite well) with some of her friends. I really pitied his fiancee because she is a nice and sweet gal. She would go to my friend's house to do some clean up and laundry everyday. She was friendly and chatty to me and my friends. Since that incident, she was very quiet and not so cheerful anymore.

Then, in Feburary, this PRC gal went back to China to visit her family and never came back. My friend tried to contact her but with no avail. Up til now, I did not even bother to console him because I feel that he deserved all these. Maybe it's called instant Karma. Worse still, he told me he spent more than $50K on this PRC gal. I told him how stupid can a man gets? He always boasts that he has been in the GL scene for more than 10 years in front of us and still can fell into this kind of trap. What made me even more disgust is that, he is still hoping that PRC gal will come back to him.

The only thing I told him was, "Is it worth it?". I just want to relate another true experience in the sex industry. I'm not trying to condemn the WL or FL, it just that the sex industry is not a good place for finding true love. In that industry, everything is built on the $$$. As the saying goes, "No Money, No Honey".

Thank you for the read up. Hope this posting will serve as a warning to some of the bros who wanted to get involved with the WL or FL.

Modus Operandi of cheonging: Fire and Forget. No feelings involved.

Tai_zi21 · #2 23-04-2005, 09:05 PM

Wel i feel Pity For ur Gal Friend Bro shadowlunar04!

But also there r cases where some guy really like the FL or WL and they truly get together! But Wat are the chances like? 1 in a million i guess?

Going For Tht FL u always goes to is just like eating dinner at ur fav resturant! If u like the services why not go back lor rite? but hopefully no feelings are involved!

Garf · #3 23-04-2005, 09:40 PM

yes, he is deserved to this. But seems he still hasn't learned the lesson and hope tat PRC gal back

This world really not fair. Hope his ex-gf can find someone who cherish her soon.

fwchong · #4 23-04-2005, 09:55 PM

I think I may know this guy whom you mentioned. Hope he is fine.

However, on the other hand, I though he has enough maturity to differentiate between the what is temporary and what he SG girl can offer.

All those who cheong to GL have heard of stories of PRC girls in our forum but I think most people will say I think this will not happen to me...

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yes, he is deserved to this. But seems he still hasn't learned the lesson and hope tat PRC gal back

This world really not fair. Hope his ex-gf can find someone who cherish her soon.

skyhawk958 · #5 23-04-2005, 09:56 PM

Personally i feel that there is a chance that prc might be back...........but tell ur friend dun be happy too soon coz her objective might be to get another 50k from him after giving some mama reason y she M.I.A( and no need to say,ur friend will believe whatever she says

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haiz.....英雄难过美人关。。。。10 years of GL xperience is nothing,Just take a look at how many xperienced Samster Q. up and kena merry-go-round by a mere 19yr old 小妹妹。。。

tittyhawk · #6 23-04-2005, 10:18 PM

Wats sup bro skyhawk958? How are you?

Doenitz79 · #7 23-04-2005, 10:20 PM

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Wats sup bro skyhawk958? How are you?

Off topic,but who is that in your avatar? Just want to confirm.

tittyhawk · #8 23-04-2005, 10:22 PM

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Off topic,but who is that in your avatar? Just want to confirm.

haha...bro check your signature lar, its CNA Lisa Ang, the one.

shadowlunar04 · #9 23-04-2005, 10:23 PM

2 bros PM me asking me how is my friend's ex-fiancee. Thanks for the concern. She is doing fine now, at least, from the appearance. She just barely pulled through her darkest period. I don't think she will be ready for another relationship in near future, that's what she hinted to me. She's still a very eligible lady and I believe she will find her "The One" by herself.

I still give her a call everyday and chat with her. Just to make sure she don't have any extreme thoughts. I believe she can pull through this one. Right now, friends are her vital support to her. I'm just trying to help her in whatever ways I can. For my friend, I couldn't even bother about him. I still go out with him because he always pick up the drinking tabs.

Doenitz79 · #10 23-04-2005, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by shadowlunar04

2 bros PM me asking me how is my friend's ex-fiancee. Thanks for the concern. She is doing fine now, at least, from the appearance. She just barely pulled through her darkest period. I don't think she will be ready for another relationship in near future, that's what she hinted to me. She's still a very eligible lady and I believe she will find her "The One" by herself.

I still give her a call everyday and chat with her. Just to make sure she don't have any extreme thoughts. I believe she can pull through this one. Right now, friends are her vital support to her. I'm just trying to help her in whatever ways I can. For my friend, I couldn't even bother about him. I still go out with him because he always pick up the drinking tabs.

Deep down will you consider her?

shadowlunar04 · #11 23-04-2005, 10:38 PM

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Deep down will you consider her?

Bro, I'm married liao. My wife doesn't know about this and I don't want her to have any wrong impression. Bro, I know the rules of cheonging. Who can play with and who cannot. There are times you have to be a gentleman and there are times you have to call out your inner beast. I have my rules when it comes to women and I strictly abide it.

This time I have to be a gentleman and I bear no ill intentions on this gal. I offered my help willingly without asking or wishing anything in return. Some ppl may see it differently. As long as, I'm honourable in what I'm doing, I don't have to answer to anyone. No offence, bro. It's just my style and character.

zeus · #12 23-04-2005, 10:40 PM

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Originally Posted by shadowlunar04

I'm going to relate one incident happened to one of my friends. I will not give names because I think that friend of mine also surfs this forum.

well, hope your friend read ur post....coz my personal opinion is tat, he really is a dumbo...*shakehead*

ahpaul25 · #13 23-04-2005, 11:05 PM

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well, hope your friend read ur post....coz my personal opinion is tat, he really is a dumbo...*shakehead*

Zeus bro, don say him like that lah.........he not really a dumbo guys, we all understand lah, yr frd have fallen in love trap with that PRC.........haizzz.......that y, must think twice.......b4 u step on it........yr frd did really make a wrong move by divorce with her gd wife.........50k...it alot man......spend so much on her...now all in a drain........well, ask yr frd to reunite with her wife now....as it took 3yrs...........it his only chance......hope yr frd learnt a painful lesson.

LOTR3 · #14 23-04-2005, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by shadowlunar04

2 bros PM me asking me how is my friend's ex-fiancee. Thanks for the concern. She is doing fine now, at least, from the appearance. She just barely pulled through her darkest period. I don't think she will be ready for another relationship in near future, that's what she hinted to me. She's still a very eligible lady and I believe she will find her "The One" by herself.

although i dun know her, i'll give her my blessing.

singaporeano · #15 23-04-2005, 11:13 PM

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I told him how stupid can a man gets? He always boasts that he has been in the GL scene for more than 10 years in front of us and still can fell into this kind of trap.

How stupid? Very. This is so deja vu. Personally, I too fell into this trap before.

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The only thing I told him was, "Is it worth it?".

When it happened to me, I thought it was worth it at first. Took me a while to wake up. Guess your friend just has to go through this for a while before he comes to his senses. It'll probably be too late, but it's a $50K lesson.

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Hope this posting will serve as a warning to some of the bros who wanted to get involved with the WL or FL.

Good of you to post this warning, but let me be frank with you. This is not the first and neither will it be the last. Your friend is probably like me, think we can control the situation, but in the end still kena "charmed"

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Modus Operandi of cheonging: Fire and Forget. No feelings involved.

That's what I used to do, and back to doing so. Just that I had a lapse in my priorities.

For me, my situation was more jialat. I lost my wife and subseqently my job as well because my whole world was upside down. I seldom post here because my story is nothing new, has been told many times before by so many people like us who have gone through the same old thing.

Perhaps I will post my own story here one day, just to entertain the brothers here. Because seriously, I doubt if it will really help deter it from happening to someone else.