woman's viginity-A golden question

geylangbonker · #1 26-06-2005, 02:14 AM

Let say you are getting married and only after knowing her for 3 yrs and she does not really reveal her past sex lives to you!Only then while doing her,you discover she is no longer a virgin,will you accept this fact and be together for a lifetime happily married or let this dark side of her haunt your mind in reality.Like to hear from the depth of men's thoughts of what they think!

lament · #2 26-06-2005, 02:53 AM

I think in this current age and time .....virginity is no longer an issue ....

if a man have the right to f**k around, i think the woman have the right too ....
so tis is your own choice if u wanna accept ....wats past is past unless u feel that u can't hold a candle to your ger ex sex partners ....

one thing i know is that i will always remain as my gers best ever sex partner as i do have request from them for a good time even though they have new bf ...

ahpaul25 · #3 26-06-2005, 03:28 AM

Same thought lament bro.........well, it all in the past........I myself also fuk around....so virginity to me is no longer a ques. to us......well, carry on and raise a virgin baby then....wait for her to grow up and u marry her man....lolx......at this time where to find virgin my frd.......

ACJCian · #4 26-06-2005, 04:37 AM

Well, I am in quite a dilemma myself.

Sure, I will love my wife to be a virgin, knowing that I am her first so called lover. It just basically (I know I sound horribly politically incorrect) give all the extra added pleasures of nuptial sex added in with pinches of self-assurance. BUT then I question, am I being selfish in my point of view? That I, am enforcing my preferences upon someone who loves me.

That brings the question to love-what is my love for her? Hot-nuptial virgin sex? If that is so why am I marrying her in the first place.

On the other side of the equation is acceptance. That yes the woman who is now your legally binded 'wife' has had sex with another man or many other men. In general acceptance of the present day and age or to assure oneself that one is fully in compliance with what is known to be the socially acceptable 'right', one embraces the fact.

Yes, but deep down, can one confidently say that he will truely overlook it?

I doubt so. Man's nature- which is quite simply dominated by egocentrism just wouldn't allow it.

#5 26-06-2005, 07:34 AM

For me, I marry a ger for the present and the future; Not the past.
WHats more important is how she behave when she is with the hubby now and in future, not what she has done in the past

Jari_Owen · #6 26-06-2005, 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by CNNcmg

For me, I marry a ger for the present and the future; Not the past.
WHats more important is how she behave when she is with the hubby now and in future, not what she has done in the past

Haaa...think dunno which fishing village in Indonesia got Virgin bride to sell.....but her dad beri fierce one.....haaa

fun4evergood · #7 26-06-2005, 10:20 AM

In summary, most bro think that it shouldn't be an issue if the bride-to-be iss'nt a viirgin. I definitely agreed on that. In this world, u can't expect everything to be perfect, right ?

Amx 10 · #8 26-06-2005, 12:09 PM

I am on side with what bro CNNcmg saying. Everyone have their past. Once we are going to settle down with the ger. We should look towards the future. Getting being together to start a life is not easy. It needs a lot of committment and most important. 2 hands to clap. In today society. Hard to get a virgin. Thinking of our teenager gers are so much open minded.

Rof|maoxz · #9 26-06-2005, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by geylangbonker

Let say you are getting married and only after knowing her for 3 yrs and she does not really reveal her past sex lives to you!Only then while doing her,you discover she is no longer a virgin,will you accept this fact and be together for a lifetime happily married or let this dark side of her haunt your mind in reality.Like to hear from the depth of men's thoughts of what they think!

I do agree with you that many men regretted marrying after knowing their wives' past. They should know it b4 marrying during the courtship, not after marriage. If any party intend to lie, nothing to say lor. Couples break up because they are giving lame excuses like indifference in character, in-laws problem, $$ problem. Only infidelity cannot be prevented, I admit.

I term marriage as a gamble. I can't guarantee 100% marriage success even if she's a virgin or she has not been sleeping around. I can't control that also. Hmm... Alot of factors to be considered lor. Cheers~

kaizer · #10 26-06-2005, 02:25 PM

indeed, virginity is a very sensitive issue, men are all selfish. who doesnt prefer his wife to be a virgin rather den her being fucked by other guys b4? well, i was wondering.. for example, u noe ur wife is noe a virgin, and shes honest to u to tell u dat one of the guy she once bedded wif is one of ur good buddy, how would u feel? do u still haf the face to see your buddy? next time like go out together, u see ur buddy, u pai seh anot? like ur taking a second hand good from ur buddy, and married a women ur buddy once fucked.

sdfr · #11 26-06-2005, 02:28 PM

virginity is overrated. i like my girls to have a bit of experience, will be more able to "communicate" in bed!

#12 26-06-2005, 03:16 PM

not all guys prefer to marry a virgin lah..
because she lacks the experience...
anyway, you marry her because you love her not because she's a virgin right?

Reaper · #13 26-06-2005, 03:17 PM

you love a person for who she is...not what she is....

If you guys think it is only right for your ger to be a virgin wen you marry her, shouldnt you be a virgin yourself when you marry her?!?!?!?! Never ask someone to do something or be something which you yourself cannot be......

geylangbonker · #14 26-06-2005, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Reaper

you love a person for who she is...not what she is....

If you guys think it is only right for your ger to be a virgin wen you marry her, shouldnt you be a virgin yourself when you marry her?!?!?!?! Never ask someone to do something or be something which you yourself cannot be......

hm....bro reaper sounds quite right.........i think nowadays spore men have to look on the brighter sights of life in marriage.........(kua pua liao)!But of course,
who don't want a virginwife,it would be a better sex experience and more precious!thank you for all your generous points of view!

Tai_zi21 · #15 26-06-2005, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Reaper

you love a person for who she is...not what she is....

If you guys think it is only right for your ger to be a virgin wen you marry her, shouldnt you be a virgin yourself when you marry her?!?!?!?! Never ask someone to do something or be something which you yourself cannot be......

Totally Agree With Wat U Say Bro! *Claps Hands*