GF keeps on pester me to get marry

[Ngengheng]

My gf is 35 years old keeps on pester me to get marry. She had proposed to me about 3 times and yet I always tell her I am not ready as I had just divorced recently...Our relationship is about 6 months old only. The reason she gave to me is that she has no time to wait. I keep on tell her to wait until I am comfort but she said I am too selfish . She felt so insecure and resulted in too many quarrels. Wonder how to do about it.

[MountainTurtle]

Originally Posted by Ngengheng

My gf is 35 years old keeps on pester me to get marry. She had proposed to me about 3 times and yet I always tell her I am not ready as I had just divorced recently...Our relationship is about 6 months old only. The reason she gave to me is that she has no time to wait. I keep on tell her to wait until I am comfort but she said I am too selfish . She felt so insecure and resulted in too many quarrels. Wonder how to do about it.

In this case, she have her own insecurity and you have your discomfort of the nightmare for the previous marriage but still you don't owe her a living. You are only with her for 6 months but not keeping her as a mistress all along with your previous marriage.

Have a heart to heart with her, give her a direction or a timeline of what you are comfortable with, if she still insisit you should consider a better option because that shows that she is not very understanding and only want things to go in her own way. Would you want a wife that is demanding?

[Ngengheng]

Originally Posted by MountainTurtle

In this case, she have her own insecurity and you have your discomfort of the nightmare for the previous marriage but still you don't owe her a living. You are only with her for 6 months but not keeping her as a mistress all along with your previous marriage.

Have a heart to heart with her, give her a direction or a timeline of what you are comfortable with, if she still insisit you should consider a better option because that shows that she is not very understanding and only want things to go in her own way. Would you want a wife that is demanding?

I dont want a wife to be demanding or else will be digging another coffin again. If she really loves me she got to wait right?

[5ag1_Boar]

She's 35? I don't see the hurry to get married unless she wants to have kids.

Are YOU ready to have kids with her? Just 6 months into a relationship, its very hard to tell if someone is the one you can be with for the rest of your life. You want to go through another divorce? Or get stuck because got kids?

If you are not ready, just say so. Similar to MountainTurtle suggested, set a dateline for the next review. Example, tell her you are not ready and not sure at the moment, then set a date 6 months later that both of you can talk about it again. Make sure she is clear that it is a review of how both of you feel, not a promise to marry.

Anyway, if you are not keen to marry her, my gut feel is that you are not quite sure about her.

[DYBJ]

Originally Posted by Ngengheng

If she really loves me she got to wait right?

NO!
Women have expiry dates men dun!
Did u take tat into consideration in the 1st place?
If she's 20, ok fuck her man but she's 35, wat do u tink?
Before u KPKB here, spare a tot for the other party!
Many women, when they reach expiry, almost any tom dick & harry come, they mite also marry!
Welcum to life!
U how old liao, this kinda thing oso dunno meh?

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by DYBJ

NO!
Women have expiry dates men dun!
Did u take tat into consideration in the 1st place?
If she's 20, ok fuck her man but she's 35, wat do u tink?
Before u KPKB here, spare a tot for the other party!
Many women, when they reach expiry, almost any tom dick & harry come, they mite also marry!
Welcum to life!
U how old liao, this kinda thing oso dunno meh?

Errr... do you mean that just because SHE has expiry date, he must marry her sooner?

Or, simply let her go and don't let this drag?

[DYBJ]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Errr... do you mean that just because SHE has expiry date, he must marry her sooner?

Or, simply let her go and don't let this drag?

I am asking him to see from her perspective.
Many females still unmarried at that age will kenna pressure from family, friends & colleagues one
So, before complaining, he shud spare a tot for the reasons for her actions n see how to resolve from there

[sammyboyfor]

Dump her and find yourself a girlfriend who's already married to someone else.

[DYBJ]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Dump her and find yourself a girlfriend who's already married to someone else.

wahahaha baskit u damn bad lolzzz

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by DYBJ

wahahaha baskit u damn bad lolzzz

I'm just offering a practical solution to the problem. 99% of single women will broach the subject sooner or later and the older they are, the sooner they'll bring it up.

On the other hand, a married women would be quite happy just to have a lover and soulmate.

[DYBJ]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

99% of single women will broach the subject sooner or later and the older they are, the sooner they'll bring it up.

Wat puzzles me most is that this bloke was just divorced n at his age doesn't know this fact?
Amazing

[sane]

I agree with bro DY, a woman biological clock is ticking v fast once she reach 30's especially on childbirth issues.

To TS, let her go if u r not willing to marry her. Men can look for other mei mei to give birth for them but women can't. Don't waste her time. Do u want to tell her both of u r not suitable once she reach 40????????

[DYBJ]

Originally Posted by sane

I agree with bro DY, a woman biological clock is ticking v fast once she reach 30's especially on childbirth issues.

To TS, let her go if u r not willing to marry her. Men can look for other mei mei to give birth for them but women can't. Don't waste her time. Do u want to tell her both of u r not suitable once she reach 40????????

Muacks muacks

[Apocalypse]

Originally Posted by DYBJ

NO!
Women have expiry dates men dun!
Did u take tat into consideration in the 1st place?
If she's 20, ok fuck her man but she's 35, wat do u tink?
Before u KPKB here, spare a tot for the other party!
Many women, when they reach expiry, almost any tom dick & harry come, they mite also marry!
Welcum to life!
U how old liao, this kinda thing oso dunno meh?

30+ is expiry meh? Can repackage and sell at high price mah.

[outside]

If you likes her, and want her to be wife, then what are you waiting for.

A wife who waits for you at home, instead of going out to spend monies, waste time driving here and there.., if she is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life lah.