I'm losing my wife

[grasshopper88]

All, I'm trashing out loud. Don't mind me..like the thread state, my wife is giving the cold to me for 2weeks now. We been married for 12 years ,no kids ,no money. Now I'm in a mess, bankrupt declare and she was like 360* not spoke to me. Recently saw a guy driving Merc sending her back. Don't come home till midnight. Now feels like the world tumbling down on me. Old ,no money ,wife(gonna) run, hurt deep down.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by grasshopper88

All, I'm trashing out loud. Don't mind me..like the thread state, my wife is giving the cold to me for 2weeks now. We been married for 12 years ,no kids ,no money. Now I'm in a mess, bankrupt declare and she was like 360* not spoke to me. Recently saw a guy driving Merc sending her back. Don't come home till midnight. Now feels like the world tumbling down on me. Old ,no money ,wife(gonna) run, hurt deep down.

Let the bitch go and find yourself a new wife.

[cuscorex92]

TS,its a sad situation,my empathy...夫妻本是同林鸟,大难临头各自飞。。。拜金社会,又有多少是能共患难的??

[sane]

Have u spoken to her yet? Breakdown doesn't happen in a day or 2.

[Botakhead]

Looks like you are in for a divorce, the last resort. If no communication going between you two, counselling is not an option, so be it. You gotta let it go when the time cums.

It is best for you to start anew, no point to hanker over the past. Bankrupt is not the end of the world (life). Wake up and see a new day everyday.

Cheers and best wishes.

[LengKia]

Bro,

Marriage doesn't equal happiness. I always believe we must living happily else what is the purpose of being a human because in the buddhist teaching, human is suffering....take care

separation is common nowadays....have you asked yourself do you want to be someone who doesn't share your ups and downs

[PhariseesYeast]

Bro,

I know is not easy, but you must let go and continue with your life. Once marriage is broken down, it's darn hard to glue back together. Don't turn this into an ugly affair else you will hurt even more. Be happy for her that she found somebody. Just remember

不在乎天长地久，只在乎曾经拥有 (Don't worry about eternal love, just care you once had each other)

[Ngengheng]

Better let go to obtain your happiness.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Why you gone bankrupt? Gambling?

It takes 2 to tango and it is unfair (I notices this trend very often in forum) to give preference 1-sided support opinion to Thread Starter (as like 1st comer is always correct) while on an extreme end, putting the other accused party on the chop-board and a perfect wrong doer. More details, please. Thank you

No offense to anyone. IMHO, supporting advice should be meted out objectively, without fear or favour, regardless of forum's seniority, money, power, weakness or thread starter.

You only 2 post under moderation but with a 27 points (7 points added)
No money with life in a state of mess but still got mood for 'BUSty 'D' Bomber" Masseur ?

http://sams.guide/showpos...9&postcount=44

[grasshopper88]

Originally Posted by cuscorex92

TS,its a sad situation,my empathy...夫妻本是同林鸟,大难临头各自飞。。。拜金社会,又有多少是能共患难的??

thanks.

Originally Posted by sane

Have u spoken to her yet? Breakdown doesn't happen in a day or 2.

spoke to her she kept slient.

Originally Posted by Botakhead

Looks like you are in for a divorce, the last resort. If no communication going between you two, counselling is not an option, so be it. You gotta let it go when the time cums.

It is best for you to start anew, no point to hanker over the past. Bankrupt is not the end of the world (life). Wake up and see a new day everyday.

Cheers and best wishes.

thanks

Originally Posted by LengKia

Bro,

Marriage doesn't equal happiness. I always believe we must living happily else what is the purpose of being a human because in the buddhist teaching, human is suffering....take care

separation is common nowadays....have you asked yourself do you want to be someone who doesn't share your ups and downs

Originally Posted by PhariseesYeast

Bro,

I know is not easy, but you must let go and continue with your life. Once marriage is broken down, it's darn hard to glue back together. Don't turn this into an ugly affair else you will hurt even more. Be happy for her that she found somebody. Just remember

不在乎天长地久，只在乎曾经拥有 (Don't worry about eternal love, just care you once had each other)

will do

[grasshopper88]

Originally Posted by Ngengheng

Better let go to obtain your happiness.

will do

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

Why you gone bankrupt? Gambling?

It takes 2 to tango and it is unfair (I notices this trend very often in forum) to give preference 1-sided support opinion to Thread Starter (as like 1st comer is always correct) while on an extreme end, putting the other accused party on the chop-board and a perfect wrong doer. More details, please. Thank you

No offense to anyone. IMHO, supporting advice should be meted out objectively, without fear or favour, regardless of forum's seniority, money, power, weakness or thread starter.

You only 2 post under moderation but with a 27 points (7 points added)
No money with life in a state of mess but still got mood for 'BUSty 'D' Bomber" Masseur ?

http://sams.guide/showpos...9&postcount=44

*bankrupt- OverDraft and yes gambling, I have HepB need to get med. from NUH and cost me yearly $7128.
*It takes 2 to tango and it is unfair - she's doing MLM and tends to meet ppl and bosses from all over Singapore. saw her delete sms and dress differently, if she really wants me to get out of the way,I'm seriously will let go. but don't sleep next to me and push me away when I touches her.

*as for Busty D yes I did post for PM ,I do have my needs.I have not been with my wife sexually intimate for 3mths.



all, I'm really thanks for all the concern and help given.

[casannova03]

Just like marriage does not happened overnight, so does problems....

You have to look back on what you have done or not done that resulted in the current situation bro...

If you are serious about the marriage, talk to your wife... show her your plan to get your act together and work towards it together...

Tell her what's past is past and you're committed to change the way of life that led to the current situation. Then DO something about it....promising and talking is of no use...

No point starting to get suspicious about her and her colleagues or what not and start feeling self pity...if she really want to leave you, I dun think she will be back home on even sleeping on the same bed as you...

So NOW is the time for you to start doing something constructive instead of spending time contemplating what might have been or what your wife is up to...your actions now will very much determine her decision...you've got to show women security bro...that's the basic...

Hope you have lots of luck on your way out of the situation!

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

You are a HepB patient

Originally Posted by grasshopper88

bankrupt- OverDraft and yes gambling, I have HepB need to get med. from NUH and cost me yearly $7128.

Given the case, you should save every penny you have. Kill off your bad gambling habits.

For financial assistance, you may wanna contact
1) HSDP
2) NUH's Counsellor
3) Medisave (THOUGH NOT MUCH BUT BETTER THAN NOTHING)
4) Talk to OA office on your HepB medical expenses for possible reduction of repayment each month
5) Your district MP

Originally Posted by grasshopper88

she's doing MLM and tends to meet ppl and bosses from all over Singapore. saw her delete sms and dress differently, if she really wants me to get out of the way,I'm seriously will let go. but don't sleep next to me and push me away when I touches her.

You need to talk to your wife whether she's afraid of you cos your are a HepB patient. You already know that HepB can lead to another liver disease and the support of loved ones and friends are as important as the medications on the road to recovery cos most often it is not the stress that pushes a patient into despair but the feeling of helplessness without the support from people around you.

Originally Posted by grasshopper88

*as for Busty D yes I did post for PM ,I do have my needs.I have not been with my wife sexually intimate for 3mths.

As a HepB patient, you should avoid sexual contact to protect others. You should know the reason why, I no need to say more here

No offense, IK being IK with his shoot-off-mouth badminton pattern, above apply to all genuine patients

[Apocalypse]

As usually, you are telling us the symptoms but not the cause of the problem.

How did you get your gambling addiction? What is it you are running away from? Me, I go to casino every few days but that doesn't mean I like gambling.

and

How did you get the HepB? We know that hepB don't get transmitted by sharing utensils with your army mates.

One wrong thing lead to another wrong thing. You don't have to tell us the reasons why and what happen and I don't need to know.

But you should be thinking of how to make $, earn $ and take care of yourself, not look for whores and risk infecting them. Every wrong turn is an opportunity for great things. You were lucky its just hepB and not HIV. And since its just overdraft amount, it shouldn't be too large an amount anyway. take this as an opportunity for you to stop gambling and dun steal people's ID to go into the casino.

Once you get your act together, if your wife still want to run away, then its up to her. but if you do nothing, then you can't blame her for running to a greener pasture.

just my 2cent take on your situation. hope it helps and nothing in this post is meant to insult or put you down.

[Big Sexy]

What? are you on drugs?
ts should do like what sam says..
dump the bitch and get himself a new girl

Originally Posted by PhariseesYeast

Be happy for her that she found somebody.