Curious new comer

[Im00n]

Hey bro, like I mention I'm new and I've got some question I hope you guys can help.
I tried a few bonks and my last one was quite awkward at least for me. I went back to the same ML for the 2nd time and have way tru bonking my 2ic limps without shooting. So thing becomes very awkward for me cos I'm new to this and all.

So I like to ask if anyone masturbate before going for bonk? Did it limp cos I masturbate? Is it like unspoken rulE not to master ate before going for bonk? Anyone experience similar situation?
Hope I didn't say or do anything wrong and hope for some help maybe? Thanks in advance.

[JieJieJiaoWo]

Could be due to stress, the room no air-con, room dirty, the ml suction no good, you cared too much about what the ml thinks or the position not your cup. Which position were you using? Got try doggy style?

I think if you aren't enjoying, you should stop and do more foreplay, or change position try. Else just tell ml help you massage or hdly. Don't need to force it and be awkward. Even if its with your gf, exploring together, finding different styles to suit both your needs would help your relationship go a long way!

[YakunBoy]

Originally Posted by Im00n

Hey bro, like I mention I'm new and I've got some question I hope you guys can help.
I tried a few bonks and my last one was quite awkward at least for me. I went back to the same ML for the 2nd time and have way tru bonking my 2ic limps without shooting. So thing becomes very awkward for me cos I'm new to this and all.

So I like to ask if anyone masturbate before going for bonk? Did it limp cos I masturbate? Is it like unspoken rulE not to master ate before going for bonk? Anyone experience similar situation?
Hope I didn't say or do anything wrong and hope for some help maybe? Thanks in advance.

I've had that experience before. If you are lucky to have an experienced ml, she should be able to give you a bbbj + hj to finish the job. Sometime else you can consider is to take a break for 2-3 days.. No hj or anything.. And after that go for a zhua Gen session... Hopefully after that you will not have this problem..

[avantas]

Such a situation happened to me before and it made me question my virility at the age of 27 and whether I have some problem. In the end I realise it has got to do with stress and preference but I nearly spiral into a vicious cycle where my tool could be as hard as a rod but just couldn't fire regardless of what was done.

Stress comes in 2 areas. One is the environmental. Having 2 many things (work, commitment, financial problems and etc.) hanging on your mind affects your ability to get it up and fire. Especially if you are using a condom and have foreskin which reduces sensitivity. You just can't feel enough to either get erected or fire. Masturbation has a bit of impact but if you can masturbate twice a day, theoretically you should be able to get it going one with your hand and once with a working lady.

The second area of stress comes with the act itself. For me this was the stress of my problem. I didn't actually know I have a preference on how the sex should be until I coincidentally arrived at what I liked. Often due to Budget or exposure we choose among the best service provider available even though they may not be exactly what we want. We look at this hot mature Chinese looking woman with Long legs and agreed with Bros that it should be a good fuck. The woman gives a tight BJ and AR but for some reason after a while it doesn't feel as arousing as before. Then doggy proceeds but it goes out of steam and then the profession ask the troublesome question of "is there something wrong?". It was out of professional courtesy to ask but for a young man it can hurt the self esteem.

Eventually I realised I prefer GNDs that are petite with big tits and soft skin and that I prefer cow girl much more than missionary or doggy cos I don't like to work up a sweat. Other than that I love the idea of undressing the girl when she is sitting on my lap and fingering her. Unfortunately it also make me realise certain type of commercial services don't allow some of the things I like (example sauna, Geylang and etc.)

Eventually I switched to FBs and take always from LS KTVs cos the woman are more personal and allow some better foreplay.

One thing you can try is to go Thailand and try some of their other services. It is very commercialise with a large variety in terms of the type of woman. Only problem is with communication. Once you get that done, you can try dating sites and etc. which may find some gems.

Either way, just take it easy

[freezetheDB]

for me no chemistry = lose the mood and no longer fun

it is important to know what you like, and as a consumer get what you want or walk away

[Im00n]

Originally Posted by JieJieJiaoWo

Could be due to stress, the room no air-con, room dirty, the ml suction no good, you cared too much about what the ml thinks or the position not your cup. Which position were you using? Got try doggy style?

I think if you aren't enjoying, you should stop and do more foreplay, or change position try. Else just tell ml help you massage or hdly. Don't need to force it and be awkward. Even if its with your gf, exploring together, finding different styles to suit both your needs would help your relationship go a long way!

Hmm I went back the second time so should have been those problem. Might be your second point tho. Thanks for the reply.

[Im00n]

Originally Posted by YakunBoy

I've had that experience before. If you are lucky to have an experienced ml, she should be able to give you a bbbj + hj to finish the job. Sometime else you can consider is to take a break for 2-3 days.. No hj or anything.. And after that go for a zhua Gen session... Hopefully after that you will not have this problem..

Don't know if she experience or not, got nothing to compare with. But she did try to give me a hj but the same thing happened again. It's was a week apart when I went back tho.

[Im00n]

Originally Posted by avantas

Such a situation happened to me before and it made me question my virility at the age of 27 and whether I have some problem. In the end I realise it has got to do with stress and preference but I nearly spiral into a vicious cycle where my tool could be as hard as a rod but just couldn't fire regardless of what was done.

Stress comes in 2 areas. One is the environmental. Having 2 many things (work, commitment, financial problems and etc.) hanging on your mind affects your ability to get it up and fire. Especially if you are using a condom and have foreskin which reduces sensitivity. You just can't feel enough to either get erected or fire. Masturbation has a bit of impact but if you can masturbate twice a day, theoretically you should be able to get it going one with your hand and once with a working lady.

The second area of stress comes with the act itself. For me this was the stress of my problem. I didn't actually know I have a preference on how the sex should be until I coincidentally arrived at what I liked. Often due to Budget or exposure we choose among the best service provider available even though they may not be exactly what we want. We look at this hot mature Chinese looking woman with Long legs and agreed with Bros that it should be a good fuck. The woman gives a tight BJ and AR but for some reason after a while it doesn't feel as arousing as before. Then doggy proceeds but it goes out of steam and then the profession ask the troublesome question of "is there something wrong?". It was out of professional courtesy to ask but for a young man it can hurt the self esteem.

Eventually I realised I prefer GNDs that are petite with big tits and soft skin and that I prefer cow girl much more than missionary or doggy cos I don't like to work up a sweat. Other than that I love the idea of undressing the girl when she is sitting on my lap and fingering her. Unfortunately it also make me realise certain type of commercial services don't allow some of the things I like (example sauna, Geylang and etc.)

Eventually I switched to FBs and take always from LS KTVs cos the woman are more personal and allow some better foreplay.

One thing you can try is to go Thailand and try some of their other services. It is very commercialise with a large variety in terms of the type of woman. Only problem is with communication. Once you get that done, you can try dating sites and etc. which may find some gems.

Either way, just take it easy

For the 1st 2 time I did with condom didn't have a problem, this happen on the 3rd.
The ml was my type so I'm thinking maybe it's cos of preference of position? As I'm quite new so I just let her lead everything. So many I didn't have the feel there?
And for your last point I probably can't do it, more like don't know how to haha. Thanks for the advice and reply tho

[Im00n]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

for me no chemistry = lose the mood and no longer fun

it is important to know what you like, and as a consumer get what you want or walk away

I guess this might be a reason too, I got bored? Cos I'm still quite new so I just let the ml let since the 1st time was fine actually? Anyway thanks for the reply