Am I going crazy or a complete looser?

[HungerAwaken]

Hi bro and sis,

First of all, I'm just opening my heart out as I have nowhere to open out.
So if there is anything that irritate u, my scinere apologies.

How will u handle this case?

I met this girl while we are around 17.
I fall in love with her.
We become friends. Very close friends.
I tried to win her heart for 5+ years.
After that I win her heart.

And we become bf-gf for 4+ years.
I love her so much.
I give up everything for her.
I lost all my friends coz I give all my attentions and time to her.
You can even call me a fool by now.

I know she also love me very much after we become bf-gf.

Since the time we r together, although we both love each other very much, we have lots of differents.
We fight alot. But whenever there was a fight, finally I gave up and just let her win.
I just convince her as my fault, whether it's true or not.
Coz I don't want to fight with her.
I just only want to love her.
From time to time, I become alone more and more.
I dare not share any single opinion with her coz if that one is against her will, she will get angry and we will fight.
I don't want that.
So I become speechless from time to time.
But I love her. Im faithful to her.
I didn't find any outside fun.
I don't drink, smoke or anything.

But later, she keeps getting worse and worse. And even if I ask her a simple question like "r u feeling well" she pissed off.
She blamed me that I'm insensitive.
She said I'm not romantic.
She forced me to tell her I love her all the time.
It is not that I don't love her but, I'm sure all bro will understand, I don't feel always in love.
If I had some shit in office and I'm angry, how can I tell her my heart is filled with loves.
But if I don't tell her, she starts to pissed off and angry with me. Cry and so on.
I don't want to see and hear those things.
So I just try to avoid it by saying I love her.
But deep inside I feels like I'm lying to her.
I don't want to do that!
I'm not a good lied. I feel uneasy whenever I had to lie!
I can lie to anybody but not to my love one.

Cut the story short.
Now she avoiding me.
I tried to call her several times, but she's avoidin me.
It's been like 3 months or more.
I feels like shit.
I cannot follow her coz she's not currently here.

I know she loves me
But we r not happy
I understand her. She also not happy with me.
But she also love me.
So she want me to b more sensitive to her.
But lots of un-common things between me and her makes us distance.

I don't know what to do now.
If I try to get her back to me, I can but she will not be happy as I'm not her type, no matter how I scarifies.
But if I let her go ... I don't want to expect that what she'll b.

I tried to forget her. And let her go.
Coz whenever we have fight, she always said coz of me she's becoming like this and that. Coz of me she's not happy. Bla bla bla.

All I want is her to b happy!

I tried to make myself forget!
I went to GL and xxx with WL twice and once with one LB.
I even planned to involved in 3some with one of the bro couple here.
But in reality, It didnt make me happy or forgot her.
I never drink b4 so I don't dare to drink alone coz I don't know what will happened after I'm drunk.

I feel like stupid
I look myself as another man. I piss myself off.

I don't know what to do

Thanks for reading bro and sis!
Hope it won't annoy u.
Hope to get some replies.
What so ever, I used to b in closed room, nobody listen to my side and my emotions.

Life! It's suck!
Everybody around me are talking and laughing.
I have nobody to talk!
I make every laugh whenever they feel down and crying.
But nobody when I'm down and crying!
I'm a man!
I never cried before!
I had very bad family problem since I was born!
I didnt had a chance to live with my parents till I'm 14.
But I never loose a tear!

What is this life!
I feel like shit!
What I'm doing?

I'm sorry everybody!
Thanks for giving me a chance to express!

[BeCkHaM_]

Just go get drunk . trust me u be fine

[HungerAwaken]

Hi bro,

Thanks bro! I'll try

[abchow]

HI bro,

from what u said on this post . i believe you are quite young and your girl friend is young too.

My advice is to have a heart to heart talk with her and make sure its not a finger pointing session.

If both of you feel its time to go separate way , let it be.
No point dragging this relationship any longer when both parties feel the pain and insecurity etc.

Hope all the best for both of u . Maybe not together would be the best thing.
But final decision would be yours and hers.

This is what maturity means. Able to make difficult decision in time like this.

Good luck!!

[HungerAwaken]

Originally Posted by abchow

HI bro,

from what u said on this post . i believe you are quite young and your girl friend is young too.

My advice is to have a heart to heart talk with her and make sure its not a finger pointing session.

If both of you feel its time to go separate way , let it be.
No point dragging this relationship any longer when both parties feel the pain and insecurity etc.

Hope all the best for both of u . Maybe not together would be the best thing.
But final decision would be yours and hers.

This is what maturity means. Able to make difficult decision in time like this.

Good luck!!

Thanks bro!
Thank you very much for ur advise.
U really point me out the thing I'm missing.
I'll try to solve it without avoiding like an immature amature.

Thanks for ur time upon my stupid immature thing and giving me a good solution!

[angmoguy]

grow up, stop whining like a 5 year old, and get on with your life.

There is a whole world out there, go and get what you want, no-one is going to hand things to you on a silver tray.

[alan0338]

dun stay together just for the sake of being together, simple...

[SHalone]

Divert your attention to build a career first. You have a long time left to worry about women.

[arsenal_84]

seems like the 2 of you are incompatible with one another...

the moment one girl tells you that you're not her type...don't bother trying anymore cause eventually if someone along her dream qualities comes along, is very likely you'll be dump without even knowing the real/actual reason.
having just love alone is not enough to overcome such external factors at work...

a partner that you cannot communicate emotionally is simply not worth having, no matter how good her other qualities are.

[devil81]

Originally Posted by HungerAwaken

Hi bro and sis,

First of all, I'm just opening my heart out as I have nowhere to open out.
So if there is anything that irritate u, my scinere apologies.

How will u handle this case?

I met this girl while we are around 17.
I fall in love with her.
We become friends. Very close friends.
I tried to win her heart for 5+ years.
After that I win her heart.

And we become bf-gf for 4+ years.
I love her so much.
I give up everything for her.
I lost all my friends coz I give all my attentions and time to her.
You can even call me a fool by now.

I know she also love me very much after we become bf-gf.

Since the time we r together, although we both love each other very much, we have lots of differents.
We fight alot. But whenever there was a fight, finally I gave up and just let her win.
I just convince her as my fault, whether it's true or not.
Coz I don't want to fight with her.
I just only want to love her.
From time to time, I become alone more and more.
I dare not share any single opinion with her coz if that one is against her will, she will get angry and we will fight.
I don't want that.
So I become speechless from time to time.
But I love her. Im faithful to her.
I didn't find any outside fun.
I don't drink, smoke or anything.

But later, she keeps getting worse and worse. And even if I ask her a simple question like "r u feeling well" she pissed off.
She blamed me that I'm insensitive.
She said I'm not romantic.
She forced me to tell her I love her all the time.
It is not that I don't love her but, I'm sure all bro will understand, I don't feel always in love.
If I had some shit in office and I'm angry, how can I tell her my heart is filled with loves.
But if I don't tell her, she starts to pissed off and angry with me. Cry and so on.
I don't want to see and hear those things.
So I just try to avoid it by saying I love her.
But deep inside I feels like I'm lying to her.
I don't want to do that!
I'm not a good lied. I feel uneasy whenever I had to lie!
I can lie to anybody but not to my love one.

Cut the story short.
Now she avoiding me.
I tried to call her several times, but she's avoidin me.
It's been like 3 months or more.
I feels like shit.
I cannot follow her coz she's not currently here.

I know she loves me
But we r not happy
I understand her. She also not happy with me.
But she also love me.
So she want me to b more sensitive to her.
But lots of un-common things between me and her makes us distance.

I don't know what to do now.
If I try to get her back to me, I can but she will not be happy as I'm not her type, no matter how I scarifies.
But if I let her go ... I don't want to expect that what she'll b.

I tried to forget her. And let her go.
Coz whenever we have fight, she always said coz of me she's becoming like this and that. Coz of me she's not happy. Bla bla bla.

All I want is her to b happy!

I tried to make myself forget!
I went to GL and xxx with WL twice and once with one LB.
I even planned to involved in 3some with one of the bro couple here.
But in reality, It didnt make me happy or forgot her.
I never drink b4 so I don't dare to drink alone coz I don't know what will happened after I'm drunk.

I feel like stupid
I look myself as another man. I piss myself off.

I don't know what to do

Thanks for reading bro and sis!
Hope it won't annoy u.
Hope to get some replies.
What so ever, I used to b in closed room, nobody listen to my side and my emotions.

Life! It's suck!
Everybody around me are talking and laughing.
I have nobody to talk!
I make every laugh whenever they feel down and crying.
But nobody when I'm down and crying!
I'm a man!
I never cried before!
I had very bad family problem since I was born!
I didnt had a chance to live with my parents till I'm 14.
But I never loose a tear!

What is this life!
I feel like shit!
What I'm doing?

I'm sorry everybody!
Thanks for giving me a chance to express!

you just build a career first. dun think to have a gf or bf la just build ur career 1st i have only 1 gf where i was 14 year old we go dateing for 1 yaer dan break off cos she like other guy lo nw wat to do u said la i dun have gf for 15 year liao also like tat u just build ur career 1st la ur career good liao dan find a gf la so far i noe tat nw the girl wan to find have a good career n many money lo u dun have a career u think ur gal will stay wif u very long ma some for see money nt love la my fren got go tis problem b4 so i noe la just build ur career 1st tat all

[HungerAwaken]

Wow!

Thank you very much to all bro!
I didn't expect that much attentions and replies!

Thank you very much for ur advise!

I really feel motivated!
I'll try my best bro!

Thanks!

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by HungerAwaken

Wow!


Thank you very much for ur advise!

Should be "Thank you very much for your ADVICE!".

"Advise" is a verb.

In addition, the title of the thread should be "...complete LOSER".

"LOOSER" is what happens after you've been shafted by a huge pole.

[Big Sexy]

mate.. dont quote the whole post unnecessarily with your "catch no ball" english..

Originally Posted by devil81

dateing for 1 yaer dan break off ynoe la just build ur career 1st tat all

[deelite825]

TS,

You make me feel young again after reading your post. 愛得死去活來.. haha

But the truth be told, even both of you love each other deep deep there are many factors/circumstances that will prevent you from being together. Just to name a few:

- compatibility
- cultural differences
- family background/interference
- the unforeseen by act of gods
- etc

That's why the verse 不在乎天長地久，只在乎曾經擁有 is so famous. That's why ppl like Romeo and Juliet, Titanic, etc.. Everybody wants to be "happily ever after."


Of course, I hope you and your gf work out your differences, adapt to each other characters. At least that is still something within your control. If that is not possible, then 長痛不如短痛.. there isn't a lot of 10 years in one's life.

[innuendo]

If you're becoming looser, turn the other way.

Remember: righty tighty, lefty loosey.