advises needed in here

fabiann · #1 23-08-2010, 06:08 PM

hello to all... there is a fren of mine who told me this problem.. but i dunno how to help him.. but he is a very close fren of mine.. here it goes...

my fren and this thai lady is tgt for a period of time already.. and even though she has done many wrong things to him, he is still there for her.. and now the thai lady is pregnant with my fren's baby... but she is a work permit holder in singapore... only for 6 mths.. which means abt end of the year she will be going back to thailand... and they both know holding a work permit the lady cannot get pregnant, if found out will be send back to thailand...

but they did managed to keep it a secret.. but the biggest problem is.. my that stupid fren is an amry awol personnel.. which means he cannot leave the damn country for good...

so now wat can i advise my fren abt? she already has a baby inside her stomach.. of cos he wish to see the baby.. but the lady cant possbiliy stay in SG w/o a work permit or a PR status...

so please....

sammyboyfor · #2 23-08-2010, 06:20 PM

There is no such noun as "Advises".

The correct term is "Advice".

homie · #3 23-08-2010, 06:20 PM

wah like this very diffcult liao... i oso duno how to help ur fren here... somemore ur fren army awol personnel, LAGI JIA LAT!! phew!! i've really no idea bro, just pray hard for ur fren alright!!

JJDoggieNDoggie · #4 23-08-2010, 06:29 PM

HI

This is quite a tricky situation..somemore.. yr guyfriend is AWOL..u cant mess with the army, my friend. No joke.. I guess either 1 party need to sacrifice...

I wish I can give u some advice and some bros can offer u advice...

Shocking_vibes · #5 23-08-2010, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by fabiann

hello to all... there is a fren of mine who told me this problem.. but i dunno how to help him.. but he is a very close fren of mine.. here it goes...

my fren and this thai lady is tgt for a period of time already.. and even though she has done many wrong things to him, he is still there for her.. and now the thai lady is pregnant with my fren's baby... but she is a work permit holder in singapore... only for 6 mths.. which means abt end of the year she will be going back to thailand... and they both know holding a work permit the lady cannot get pregnant, if found out will be send back to thailand...

but they did managed to keep it a secret.. but the biggest problem is.. my that stupid fren is an amry awol personnel.. which means he cannot leave the damn country for good...

so now wat can i advise my fren abt? she already has a baby inside her stomach.. of cos he wish to see the baby.. but the lady cant possbiliy stay in SG w/o a work permit or a PR status...

so please....

Hi when you mean wrong things it usually means cheating on him with other guys correct?

fabiann · #6 24-08-2010, 02:53 PM

bro.. wat wrong she really did i really dunno... i nv ask much.. my fren juz told me she did some stuff wrong..

needsomeone76 · #7 24-08-2010, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by fabiann

bro.. wat wrong she really did i really dunno... i nv ask much.. my fren juz told me she did some stuff wrong..

Seriously...

Either she go back to Thailand & he go into Army.. OR

Nothing can be done.. he cannot go out of Singapore cause passport number have reached ICA by now.. unless he got lobang for another type of passport.

Easiest way out.. is the very first option as I state above.

colins · #8 24-08-2010, 06:13 PM

If you eat too much sweets and some of your teeth fell off, the problem with you may be that you can't control your appetite. Smaller issue compared to the next.

If your teeth fell off because you never brush them for 20 years, then the problem is no longer appetite. It is to do with a sense of responsibility for yourself.

Your friend is suffering from such lack of responsibility. When the consequences of life catch up with him, nobody can help him to account for those responsibilities. He has to do it himself, and account for all which are accumulated throughout his years of escaping his responsibility.

If you are his good friend, tell him you can't really advise him nor will any advice help him overcome the current difficulties. It is time for him to be accountable for all the lapses in responsibility. To do that, he has to surrender himself to the authorities, his gf too. When they have all served their punishment administered by the law, they can all meet up again and continue their relationship. That's the only way to have any link to a long-termed solution.

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #9 24-08-2010, 06:20 PM

Bro fabiann, It’s being between a rock and a hard place, but at the same time, it can have potential for a positive outcome cos this could be your friend’s stepping stone that would help him to be a responsible man for the sake of his loved ones and himself. He should consider surrendering himself after registering his marriage with his Thai girlfriend. He should perform the responsibilities that he’s suppose to do as a responsible husband and father. He should now be willing to only give his loved ones the love, care and attention that they would need in order for him to have a really serious life work out.....What's done cannot be undone but work for a better future and a warm family is his best motivation now.

I know this is a very tough case but hope it helps.

Good luck to your friend and his loved ones

fabiann · #10 24-08-2010, 06:24 PM

bro.. but he awol personnel can still register his marriage in SG meh? cannot be in thailand ma.. bcuz both of them still in SG... and moreover, her work permit says she is NOT allowed to have babies during her work permit... so marriage is a sure NO-NO...

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Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

Bro fabiann, It’s being between a rock and a hard place, but at the same time, it can have potential for a positive outcome cos this could be your friend’s stepping stone that would help him to be a responsible man for the sake of his loved ones and himself. He should consider surrendering himself after registering his marriage with his Thai girlfriend. He should perform the responsibilities that he’s suppose to do as a responsible husband and father. He should now be willing to only give his loved ones the love, care and attention that they would need in order for him to have a really serious life work out.....What's done cannot be undone but work for a better future and a warm family is his best motivation now.

I know this is a very tough case but hope it helps.

Good luck to your friend and his loved ones

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #11 24-08-2010, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by fabiann

bro.. but he awol personnel can still register his marriage in SG meh? cannot be in thailand ma.. bcuz both of them still in SG... and moreover, her work permit says she is NOT allowed to have babies during her work permit... so marriage is a sure NO-NO...

Just an unofficial one for them...at this juncture, your friend and his Thai girlfriend needs all the support, motivation and courage to face his past mistakes.
How old is he, by the way?

fabiann · #12 24-08-2010, 06:52 PM

he is 26 this year only.... i also dunno how to help him... jeez

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #13 24-08-2010, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by fabiann

he is 26 this year only.... i also dunno how to help him... jeez

Sit down with him, look him in the eye, ask him:

All these years of running from the law, are you happy deep inside your heart? It's time to lift your head high and wash record. It's just a few years and after that, you are still 一条好汉 because 能从绝境中走出来就是英雄好汉!!!!!

It's a tough decision to make but he is still young and many good years before him, don't waste them away

Good luck to him.

fabiann · #14 24-08-2010, 07:09 PM

but he has baby with her.. he wishes to see him/her born...

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #15 24-08-2010, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by fabiann

but he has baby with her.. he wishes to see him/her born...

ok, noted with thanks. good luck to both of them