sex..can we ever live without it ?

[hugs]

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by hugs

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

Why? You couldn't ejaculate?

Tee Vee

[PeteTsang69]

Originally Posted by hugs

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

Dear sis,

there is a new book out "why women have sex" apparently have 237 reasons . .

but i suspect what u r is missing is love/feelings/intimacy

sex is a necessary natural healthy part of life/relationships

i personally feel good sex life is under-rated in our (sing) life

cheers . . . for the future, the best has yet to come!

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by hugs

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

Do you have this feeling with all of your partners or some of your partners?

If it is some of your partners and don't do it with these partners. do it with the ones that you enjoy.

If it is all of your partners, then I really don't know how to help. Maybe other bros here know.

Cheers
Tee Vee

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

Originally Posted by hugs

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

Hi Sis,

To Not be able to enjoy every session of sex is quite normal. It happens to both men & women.

First thing you need to do is not turn sex into a schedule. Love making should be unplanned moments you enjoy. Remember back when you first met were your encounters planned or unplanned? One of the sexiest things is when your in public and your spouse whisper in your here that they are horny and want to go home. moments like that make it enjoyable.

Try to have sex at new places. Don't always make love at home, you should try to serenade every room in the house even outside on the porch as well. Even the fear of being caught can bring extreme pleasure. Small little gestures like sneaking little strokes accross your spouses legs while you are eating at a table or in a car with friends can heighten your arousal.

Every now and then get a hotel room alone just the two of you. Talk about how sexy your partner in front of them to other people. Let them know how much you enjoy being intimate with them. If you just have sex and both of you go to sleep you are definately not helping your man feel like a sex guru. Tell each other how much you crave each other. Talk dirty on the phone sometimes to each other when you are away for a while. I guarantee some couples will read this and it will feel weird to attempt to do this. That is the problem really if you cant talk openly with your partner about what they like, and don't like or even talk about how much you want it over the phone you really have a closed sexual relationship. The only way to work on it is to do some different.

Just my 1 Cent view

[hugs]

bro Geminizzzz,

i tried that n yes girls love surprises n there is always magic when sex is spontaneous .

but the problem is during sex . i felt good b4 sex , love the surprises n everything else that lead to being ready for sex . then i started to loose the feeling halfway while getting naked . i didnt even feel like getting undress . i was enjoying his company , enjoying the laughters n his present n thot i felt i wanted to have sex with him even . but the feeling nvr lasted . once i got naked i realised i didnt like him or like having sex with him as much as i thot . the feeling was a sharp drop . the thrill i felt earlier mostly gone by that time .

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by hugs

bro Geminizzzz,

once i got naked i realised i didnt like him or like having sex with him as much as i thot . the feeling was a sharp drop . the thrill i felt earlier mostly gone by that time .

Maybe a little wine might help.

Tee Vee

[Big Sexy]

theoretically yes..
but then again there are more reason to have it than not..
just don;t over do it..

some of the reasons why sex is good...
source
17 Reasons Why Having Sex Is Good for Your Health | News

1. Our mental and emotional health balance is clearly influenced by sex. Abstinence is known to cause from anxiety to paranoia and depression… In fact, in case of light depressions, after having sex the brain releases endorphins, that decrease stress, inducing a state of euphoria.

2. Sex can be a beauty treatment. While having sex, a woman’s body doubles the estrogen level, and this makes her hair shine and the skin becomes softer.

3. A 10-year research carried on 1,000 middle-aged men at Queens University in Belfast, Ireland, showed that sex on a regular basis increases the humans’ lifespan. For the same age and health, those who had orgasms more frequently had half the death rate of men who did not have such frequent orgasms. This could be due to the plummeting stress hormones, reaction that installs after we have sex.

3. Sweating while having sex cleanse the skin pores, making the skin brighter and decreasing the risk of developing dermatitis.

4. Sex can make us lose weight. You burn all that fat and carbohydrates from the romantic dinner. Quickies of 20 minutes weekly mean 7 500 calories annually, that’s as much as you consume on 120 km (745 mi) of jogging. A sex session can burn about 200 calories. This is like running 15 minutes on a treadmill!

5. Sex strengthen our muscles. You can imagine the effort made by your muscles through those pushes and flexions. It depends on your stunts in bed, of course. And it’s clearly a lot more fun than running for miles.

Originally Posted by hugs

sex..can we ever live without it ?

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

theoretically yes..
but then again there are more reason to have it than not..
just don;t over do it..

some of the reasons why sex is good...

Actually hor, Hugs is having some problems relating to enjoying sex with her BF/Hubby, not that she wants to live without sex.

I think she's afraid of ending up like the song "All I want to do is make love to you" by Hearts.

Cheers
Tee Vee

[Big Sexy]

mate.. i was referring to her other question..
'sex..can we ever live without it ?'
there was only one other questions which was
'have u ever felt this way ?'
other than that....
she wasn;t actuallly asking for solution or advice on what to do..
if she has, i would have reply accordingly..

like you say, if people never ask for advice
we better not give, if not later people say we Kaypo how?

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Actually hor, Hugs is having some problems relating to enjoying sex with her BF/Hubby

[DO_I_BJ]

Originally Posted by hugs

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but the problem is during sex . i felt good b4 sex , love the surprises n everything else that lead to being ready for sex . then i started to loose the feeling halfway while getting naked . i didnt even feel like getting undress . i was enjoying his company , enjoying the laughters n his present n thot i felt i wanted to have sex with him even . but the feeling nvr lasted . once i got naked i realised i didnt like him or like having sex with him as much as i thot . the feeling was a sharp drop . the thrill i felt earlier mostly gone by that time .

try having sex with a girl.
If that helps.
Congrats. You are officially a lesbian.

[see see only]

Originally Posted by hugs

hi bro ,
have u ever felt this way ? just when u thot it is sex u wanted most . yet somehow u cant seem to enjoy it everytime u had sex ? like something is missing but not sur what ?

Be more positive in life, TS. For at least another 100 years the sky will still be there right?

Sincerely I do not know much about the ladies but for guys or at least me, I strongly believe that my little twin brother with the smaller head, are very much linked to the big head.

When my business failed with tons of debts unable to clear, I was almost bankrupt and jobless for 6 months, still my gf always gave me good sex. Though I shoot my load out, I felt strange and I have to pretend to enjoy it so as not to disappoint my gf.

My big brain simply cant relax to enjoy the moments, as big sexy mentioned "In fact, in case of light depressions, after having sex the brain releases endorphins, that decrease stress, inducing a state of euphoria"

So this time, are you facing a very heavy & bigger depressions? until you starting to feel sex no longer can decrease the stress level anymore. AND so, Have sex, for what? Isn't?

As the chinese doctor always say: cure the root of the problem, we wont know & cant help unless you say. Or maybe you yourself can solve by facing it bravely.

So sis, dont go round buying "spanish fly" thinking it will solve your problem .

You are a smart girl judging from the way you ask your question - SO GET TO THE ROOT OF YOUR PROBLEM, you will be ok - good luck

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

Originally Posted by Big Sexy

like you say, if people never ask for advice
we better not give, if not later people say we Kaypo how?

Alamak, means i kaypoh lor

Anyway sis Hugs, sometimes men also does feel unsexcited 1/2way through the process or 1/2 way through the foreplay process. I was expecting the women to have the same as well. Some men just wants to finished up the business rushingly just for the sake of it, isnt that worse ..

Probably like what Thaivisitor mentioned, have a pint of alcohol, but not too much if not later get sleepy

Not sure what to advise anymore as im not too sure what you are missing as well..

[hugs]

while reading thru the thread , i wonder is this why man likes hunting but loses interest when the prey got caught ? so they start another hunt ? for me , the different is that as a woman i only need one man at a time .

[fazer6s]

its the curiousity tats really turns man on.example if fully nude ok lah but if revelling hmmm man wants to knows wats inside there. big/small papaya or siew mai,shaven or bushy get my drift. the beast instinct is to get as much more wherearea women tends to stick to one. its a generalise view of the animal kingdom n predatory call of the human male incl.me i guess.