Originally Posted by warbird
Another auspicious day!
I like to share an email I just received from a guru.
Gain A Girl's Trust, And "The Other Guys" Don't Matter
STIFF COMPETITION
A question I've seen more and more guys ask recently is "How do I whip the competition?"
Guys will list different sorts of competition they're most worried about. Some of the ones I've been asked about relatively recently include men who are:
Better looking
Wealthier
Taller
More popular
More muscular
Bigger bad boys
More charismatic
Owners of nicer cars
That's just scratching the surface, of course.
Anything out there a man could be better than you on, that is generally considered to be attractive to women, guys worry about it.
In particular, they worry about how to COMPETE on it.
I don't care who you are, there's ALWAYS a guy out there who is better than you on at least SOME of these.
How do you compete with that guy?
Well... what if I told you you may not NEED to compete with him?
What if I told you that if he fails to build TRUST with the girl you're trying to get, he won't even be in the running for her?
Further, what if I told you the real goal was NOT to compete... but was, instead, to get girls to chase YOU?
IF HE DOESN'T BUILD TRUST, HE'S NOT COMPETITION
So long as you follow the SAC system I give you in One Date, 99% of other men are NOT your competition.
Or so long as you build trust in some OTHER way, you're covered there too.
Most men frankly are not very good at building trust with women.
They do things that put women off, like tease them too hard or act too aloof... or they chase women too hard and make those women RUN from them.
They do the "be impressive" thing...
Or they search for commonalities with women, but do it in ineffective ways (that often make women feel more DISSIMILAR, rather than similar).
Thus, right off the bad, you can scratch out any man who does not build enough trust (assuming you DO built trust) from the running.
I'll give you an example of how to think about this.
Imagine you know a girl. She's cute, though not gorgeous. Her body's good, yet not perfect. She's a fun person, but casual.
Overall though, you think she's pretty good. And one thing you absolutely DO have is an incredible connection with her.
You LOVE to be with this girl. You feel like she "gets" you in a way pretty much no other girl does.
This girl is IT for you. She's as close to a soul mate as you can get without being together with her yet.
One day you meet another girl. And this girl is beautiful, with an incredible body, and a really fun personality.
But you just don't feel very connected to her. She flirts with you, but it doesn't feel "real." It feels like she is TRYING to impress you.
The weekend rolls around, and both girls message you to see if you'll meet up.
You get the sense both girls are interested; you will probably score with whichever girl you go for, but it's a good bet you lose the other.
Which girl do you choose?
If you're answering honestly, you probably said "The girl who's pretty good, and who really gets me and who I have an incredible connection with."
Even if the other girl is prettier and more fun, if the connection isn't there, the DESIRE isn't there.
Not to the same extent.
And this is one of the major, major obstacles most guys have with GIRLS.
A guy can be very impressive.
He may have developed his charisma to a high degree, or packed on a bunch of muscles, or stacked a lot of paper.
But if he does not know how to make women trust him, they will ALWAYS be on guard around him.
When YOU know how to build that trust, you become "The Guy" for girls... even if the other guy looks better than you "on paper."
LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE
It was about how even though some "conventional wisdom" maintains that opposites attract, this isn't the case at all.
People generally want to be with people who are LIKE THEM... not people who are their "opposites."
The more like her she thinks you are, the easier it is for her to trust you.
After all, she feels like she knows what you value, how you think about things, and how you operate.
That makes you a pretty trustworthy guy.
IMHO, the best mindset to getting many girls of your type is that you are the prize. You desire them, understand them and you want them to improve in every way possible. You want to help them. BUT, you don't need them at all.
You're non-reactive to whatever is happening to you and around you. You have zero neediness, you just go w/ the flow...
A woman's greediness is directly proportional to a man's neediness.
This applies to ALL girls and women.
A great example is the story of King Fuchai, Xi Shi and Fan Li.
Cheers!
Bro WB
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