My wife
 

I meet my wife in a dating app. I her profile she states that she want one night stand. So told her I pay RM500 for a one night stand and she agree. So we meet and i ask her is it safe to cum inside? She said yes and boom we got married till now 5 year. I fall inlove with her tho. My problem nowadays we rarely have sex. At one point I ask her why she dont want to have sex anymore. She told me she is not sexualy interested in me. My ego and pride straight go to bottom of the sea.

Started looking for an afair and I got one very obedient but got mental problems. Attention seeking too emotional and self destructive.

Now Im considering few options.
1. Divorce my wife and marry my mistress
2. Break up with mistress and start looking for SB
3. Keep both and get a SB.

I cant make decisions...

Re: My wife
 

I feel that the basis for your marriage is pretty shaky. Regardless, I highly discourage keeping both the marriage and the mistress in the interests of everyone's sexual and mental health. Jealousy and paranoia can work against you too.

I would suggest finding a way to rekindle the love (if any) in your marriage, or just get a divorce. Life is short, so there is no point staying in a loveless relationship and be unhappy. Having said that, it is better not to do things the "adultery way".

My two cents worth. Cheers!

Re: My wife
 

1. Wife not attracted to you..Move on and no point forcing on as marriage needs to be both ways

2. Mistress character and mental problem will be your source of greater problems..Let go also..

3. you got 2 problems and still thinking of getting a SB.?. Suggest that you leave the 2 women and move on to your new phase of life..:)

Re: My wife
 

If the wife isnt the possessive jealous type who restricts your lifestyle, keep the wife n find another companion.
Crazy woman like the mistress die die must avoid. Mental condition just gets worse over time.

Re: My wife
 

Bro... Mayb you should again offer her RM500:D:D

Re: My wife
 

Get a divorce and start over. The next time round don't use dating apps if you want to find a soul mate. Take up a hobby and find someone who shares similar passions.

In all marriages sex becomes secondary after a while. Friendship is far more important.

Re: My wife
 

You should have continued paying your wife the RM 500

:D

Re: My wife
 

Bro TS,

Aren't you a living joke of the century? Your last sentence claims that you can't make decisions and yet you decided on so many turn of events that leads to your current status: decide to lookup dating website, decide to meet a girl, decide to pay the girl, decide to marry the girl, so on and so forth..

Fast forward 5 years now and you claimed now you cannot make decisions?.. Sounds to me you are either trying to make yourself into a failure or inviting others to make you into a failure..

To my other brothers, don't need to give him advice. Either way he would probably seek avenues to blame others on, just because we gave him advice.

Bro TS, you actually do know what you should do to stop this madness in your life but you just need some conviction or have other alternatives to your methods of your intended actions. All you need to do is to calm down and think it through. Sometimes the best way to think it through is when you are penny-less and stranded in some foreign land to get you real thinking what the "F" have you done to bring yourself to this stage..

Be brave and strong my friend and shoulder the responsibilities of a man to see through your life and yours around. What you are doing is not just for yourself but for all whom knows you..

Re: My wife
 

Can't make decision then shouldn't give yourself too many options.

Don't complicate your life when you can't handle the mess.

Re: My wife
 

What a bizarre marriage or rather wife.

Suggest you stop all these women relationships starting with your mistress & yes maybe the 500 once might rekindle your wife's sexual interest but I would rather save it on younger ones :D

Re: My wife
 

ouch lol so direct lol and thats the problem with how ts is with his money and love. love ought to come first before money, neve use money first and then letting love get involved only later. she probably got confused from the start as to whether he is the love of her life or she loves him because of his money.

Re: My wife
 

Root of the problem is TS has too much money. That's why he has a mistress and looking for a SB while keeping the wife. Nothing wrong with that but it's about management and managing expectations.

The wife was bought & what hurts him most is when she said she lost sexual interest in him.

I used to have two wives and two GFs but couldn't manage them so ended some.