Need some advice...
 

Hello to all bros and sis.

I am really at a loss of what to do now, hope I can get some help/advice here.

Story
I started liking this ex-classmate of mine around a year back... I met her during my school intern-ship 4years ago. I liked her then (4years ago), but I didn't take action (starting to regret now).

We usually meet up with a group of friends twice a month, and yea, we were good friends (but we never went out 1 on 1). But around July last year, I bumped into her on my way to work one day, then we started sending messages and after 2 weeks, we went out together.

Maybe I should share some background on myself and her. She's a good girl (Dip grad), working for her own school fees, always home before 12am, had 2 ex-bfs, currently attached with a bf (3 years r/s), bf serving NS. She got attached to her current bf around 1 year after our intern-ship, The guy happens to be our junior also.

About myself, just finished serving my NS last year (Dip grad), found a job, currently on overseas job training for half a year, returning next month, Have no gfs before (tried wooing 2, but failed miserably), not fat, not poor, not ugly (haha).

Well I know what some bros might say, me trying to steal a girl from another NSF, is just wrong. Anyway, back to what happened. It was on our 3rd date or so that we started getting intimate. But we always stop at light petting. As she is still attached now, we don't have physical contact while we are outside... yea, kind of like we afraid of getting caught or what. After a month or so like this, I had a talk with her, and we both agreed on the fact that we do like each other.

So after around half a year of "under the light" dating, I had to leave SG for my job training... and as you would have guessed, that was when things started going downhill for me. She told me she wanted this to end, that her bf don't deserve it. So she told me on our last date, that after that night, we return to being friends. Of course I can't take it, but what else can I do? I am leaving and can't be there for her. Then she told me to leave everything to fate.

Throughout my training, I thought I was coping well with the "break up". We kept in contact throughout, but things started getting 1 sided, eventually it became only me trying almost too hard. Then I told her I couldn't do this anymore, somehow she had become my pillar of support while overseas, and her ignoring me is like tearing down that pillar. And she said sorry... told me to give up and that she is happy with her current bf. Then she said they talked about marriage, and plan to get married in 2-3 years time. She said things might be different if I had tried to woo her during our internship (freaking regret now).

So now the question, what should I do now? Give up and move on? Or go all out once and for all? Or wait?

It just feels like I haven't tried my best and might regret even more next time if I just give up now.

paiseh for wall of text.

Summary
For those who are lazy to read...
TS likes girl
Girl likes TS
Girl currently attached with an NSF (3 years r/s)
bf is 1 year younger than both of us.
TS goes overseas for job training.
Girl tells TS to give up and she is going back to her bf.

TS wants to know what he should do...

Re: Need some advice...
 

Give up and move on. If she think you are deserving and a potential boyfriend she will already gave up on her boyfriend long long a go.

Obviously she is two timing you how can she say she have feelings for you while she is with her current bf and probably enjoy fucking everynight?. Dump that mentally screwed bitch if you are a man.

Try putting yourself in the shoe of her current boyfriend and you will see the picture better.

Trust me this cycle will go on if the next player come along and woo her.TS remember this, talk is free, if you woo me 5 years a go I would be your wife happily with kids now :D

Re: Need some advice...
 

is this an open invitation ?

can i start to woo u from tonite :confused:

:D

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TS,

Most bros here have been through such r/s .....

And i believe some of them will suggest to you to make her your FB :rolleyes:


But if i did not remember wrongly you mentioned :- "Have no gfs before" .... therefore it just natural that you felt this way ...

Shed a few more tears for a few more cases, this is just a stage that almost all guys and even gals need to experience ;)


And when she said those crap .... "only if you go after her first" ... tat's just to make you feel better .... (white lies) :rolleyes: If a woman really likes you ... she can even give up a handsome billionaire for you ;)

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:D there are lots of ladies out here in this forum are looking for dates, may I refer you to the TCSS section in the swinger orgy thread :D majority of them will never say no.:p

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Give up and move on.. concentrate on your career first.
u will be able to find a another nice gal once u have the dosh..;)

Re: Need some advice...
 

Thanks for the response and advice! I guess moving on is the better choice eh... It just sucks to be in my mid twenties and have zero relationships before... feels like I lost out alot...

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Besides that... It just feels that I havent tried hard enough eh. haha.

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Wow TS, u served NS for 3 years?? :eek:

u met her 4 years ago during your internship. Usually Dip internship is in end of year 2 or final year. After which, you should go to NS. You completed NS last year, now NS only 1.5 years so u kena DB 1.5 years huh?

The gal's current bf is younger than her? They attached 3 yrs ago and the bf currently serving NS. So means the bf roughly 3-4 yrs younger than her, with no financial stability, how to win you.... :D

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Trying hard on something that is worth trying. She isn't worth even a little effort. Don't give up on the whole forest because of one tree.

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No la... 2 years NS what... Enlisted in 2009 mah. 2008 went for internship. Half a year from June 2008 - December 2008 (ya, year 2 second half.)... Grad 2009... Enlisted in the same year... Then ORD last year lor. The bf is 1 year younger. Now serving his second year in NS.

Re: Need some advice...
 

I see....thanks for clarifying my doubts. :D

Anyway, like what some bros said, you are still young, work on your career and financial stability first. Once you have established your career, gals will come automatically. ;)

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Yeps. Gonna listen to the advice bros gave here. Career first... Its just that it feels like I am close to achieving something, so close... yet so far. haha. Moving on then.

Re: Need some advice...
 

sorry sis i not into swinging... and oh ya if u happened to be BBW... then it is ok too cos me also not into BBW..

nevertheless thanks

;)

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Even if I'm miss rejection of singapore I won't want a loser like you. After rejection cannot take it is it? Egoistic :D I love dealing with people like you trust me I've deal so many in life till my fingers can never count.:D